What’s the difference between a pessimist and a realist? (this is not the intro to a joke. Kind of.) A realist is a pessimist in a clever disguise! Now this is just MY definition, so quote me on it if you want, but don’t go trying to find this in a dictionary or anything! Let me explain. I have come to realize that often, as important as it is to be “real” at times, when people are being “realistic”, this tends to lean towards the negative. I know, sometimes you gotta really look at reality and do what you need to do. But that is not what this post is all about. This post is about seeing things greater than reality.
I think what inspired this train of thought primarily, was watching the movie Joy. Have you seen it? You should. I mean, literally, GO WATCH IT!!! The movie is based on the life of the woman who is called “the queen of QVC” because she’s sold more products on there than anyone. This movie shows her life as she…against insurmountable odds and with no money to speak of…invents a product and literally saves her family. This story didn’t just speak to me, it screamed at me. After watching this inspiring story, where her entire family and all her friends were constantly telling her to give up and just call it (they were actually being realists, considering the nature of her circumstances), I couldn’t help but think more about this blatant defiance of circumstances. I mean, just dream with me. Imagine if everyone in the world was like this. Imagine if instead of giving up when things get hard, each person saw the potential in themselves, in their dreams, and in their circumstances. What if, instead of being “realists”, people decided to fight against the negative things in their lives. I know that every situation is different. But I’m fairly certain that for the most part, we are all way too quick to give up, to throw in the towel, and to blame things on “the economy”…”not enough resources”…or “not enough skills”, when those things are often not insurmountable. Or even true for that matter.
I hate when I get discouraged and start being “realistic” about life. Because no good story is “realistic”. The best stories, whether it be in history or in movies or in real life, are the ones where the hero actually conquered something. And the thing that needed to be conquered probably seemed impossible. It probably was hard, and discouraging, and there probably weren’t nearly enough resources to realistically conquer the obstacle. So here I am, in real life, and I’m ready to start looking at things less realistically. I’d like to stop being weighed down by things that seem “impossible” and start looking for opportunities instead. Yes, being a realist is just too close to being a pessimist for me.
This outfit just screams “cult leader” to me. I mean, I can’t NOT see it!! So yes, this is my “I’m forming a cult” outfit (I’m really just kidding you should know that by now!) and my cult is one of hopefulness! So join me. Let’s start persevering, stop giving up, and start realizing that there’s more to life than “reality”. This fabulous 1970s cult tunic was thrifted and I added a lot of jewelry and some riding boots to keep it from being too “fresh off the compound”. Know what I mean? :)
Hope your week is going fabulously and you are feeling all sorts of motivation to do all the things you are so gifted at!