It’s been easy in the past for me to get kind of down on social media. I stayed off Facebook completely till less than a year ago and I spent over a year not being on Instagram at all. Not even to look at what other people were posting. I’ve had some painful moments due to it, some times when I’ve seen things that have hurt me, made me feel like less than I am, or just discouraged me and caused me to wish things were different or that I was different. However, I’ve discovered the one thing about it that I wouldn’t trade for anything. The women I’ve met. Seriously, I have met some of the greatest girls on Instagram…girls who the only thing that’s not great about them is that they aren’t close enough for me to hang out with! It’s been SO encouraging and fun to “meet” these girls…whether it’s just in conversations on Instagram or actually in person.
During our recent trip to San Francisco, one of the girls I had “met” on Instagram reached out to me and asked if I wanted to meet up for coffee. I was so excited because usually on these trips, my husband is in meetings for work and I just hang out by myself, which is fine for a bit, but hanging with someone is preferable to shopping alone! Before meeting her, I had a moment of panic and I said to my husband: “oh no…I don’t know what she looks like, how will I know who she is??” And he replied: “ummmm she will most definitely know who YOU ARE!” Fine, I take a lot of selfies. I get it. It’s such an interesting thing meeting someone for the first time…when you’ve already had full conversations with them before. And not only that, but since you’ve been looking at photo snapshots from their lives for so long, you kind of feel like you know them. Social media has totally legitimized stalker behavior if you ask me!! We hung out for the morning, and honestly, I felt like I had known her for years. And yes, THAT is the amazing thing about social media too…”blind friend dates” are more like being longtime buddies thanks to the fact that you’ve gotten to know each other already. It’s like a compatibility test for friendship. Did you both like that photo of that vintage dress that just got posted? You are 99% compatible as friends.
I had so much fun with her. This scenario has repeated itself in different locations with different Instagram friends…and every single time, I feel like I’m nailing the friend game. Which is much different from how it has been for me lately when I meet girls wherever I happen to be. There’s usually a moment where the new girl I just met says: “I don’t really buy that many clothes…” and I’m like “oh…ok…that’s fun…” (awkward silence because I have no idea what to say next, but I’m guessing it will be about cows because that’s my “go to awkward silence” conversation. And no, I don’t know anything about cows, which makes it even more awkward than it was. I should probably find a new topic.) So social media, forgive me for bashing on you so hardcore, and hey, thanks for all the cool girls you’ve hooked me up with!
The SUPER cool girl in San Francisco embroiders stuff like a boss, hence this INCREDIBLE hand fringed and embroidered denim beauty I’m sporting here. Honestly, I really don’t have to be cool at all to wear this, because it’s so cool that it makes up for all my lack!!!! You need to follow her… @township31 on Instagram, and please, have her embroider something for you because she’s the COOLEST PERSON and she’s SO TALENTED!!!
Do you SEE how cool this is? I’m so thankful to have met her for so many reasons though. Making friends as an adult is so much harder than it needs to be, and hanging out with her was just so easy. The moral of the story is this: meet your Instagram friends, because they are even cooler in real life!
Happy start of your week!