Fashion Feelings: Fit In Or Stand Out

I’ve always been a blend of personality types…or so I feel.  I mean, let’s be honest.  No one really fits into one tiny box that you can check on a personality test, right?  But I think a lot of you can relate with what I’m saying…you kind of feel like you’re a little bit of a lot of qualities mixed together.  Like a “mutt” of personalities, per say. I can be analytical about certain things, but I’m not a crazy logical person.  I’m typically driven by emotions, but not in all situations will that be my deciding factor or what drives me to a decision.  I love to stand out.  But there’s parts of me who also want to fit in.  I think this is something a lot of women can relate with.  And of course, this all relates to style.  Because most things in my life can be paralleled with fashion and how I dress!

I grew up in an area where everyone kind of sort of fits into a certain box.  It’s a pretty homogenous area compared to most other cities.  I mean, it’s not like as extreme as some suburbs can be I’m sure, but definitely, my family did not fit into the boxes that I saw when I went to my friends’ houses as a child.  It was hard on me.  I think when you are born into a home, you think that where you live is “normal” because you don’t know anything else, right?  And then, you get old enough to become aware of things like financial status and all that, and you go to a friend’s house and realize…their house is not up on blocks like yours is.  I lived in a mobile home for the first nine years of my life, and to me that was “normal”.  We were not “poor” really, I mean it was a decent park and this is a nice town so I’d say the mobile home parks are probably nicer than the average…but still.  I sure got a shock when I started going to friends houses and realized that all their furniture was new and matched each other.  I remember after we moved to our first non-mobile home rental house, inviting a friend over to play.  I had seen her house and I knew what she was used to…and that gave me anxiety.  I was probably ten years old, and I was already embarrassed to have a friend over.  At that point we were living in a very nice large house with a big yard, but it wasn’t new and we didn’t have expensive pretty “stuff” in it.  My bedroom set was old (from the 60’s which NOW I love but at the time I was not crazy about) and nothing was decorated anywhere in our house.  I felt like I needed to fix this before having my friend over, so I took matters into my own hands.  I went into the garage, found some cans of paint, used an old pair of haircutting scissors my mom had left into the garage to open the cans, and painted my furniture.  Yes, I ruined that pair of scissors and yes my furniture looked quite bad when I finished with it.  I am NOT good at painting still to this day, and back then I was equally as impatient and my lack of attention to detail makes for a bad combination when it comes to art.  But you get the point.  I SO BADLY wanted to fit in.  I wanted us to live in a brand new tract home like she did.  I wanted new Pottery Barn furniture.  I wanted to look like the “norm” and I was tired of standing out.  Of being the one kid who was home schooled, had old stuff, and whose mom shopped exclusively at the thrift store.  Notice how ALL OF THOSE THINGS are cool now.  I was so born in the wrong era you guys!!!

Then I hit college and I decided that I was a stand out kinda gal.  I wore bandanas on my head like Daisy Duke and cowboy boots and light blue eyeshadow to match my vintage ruffled top.  I wore whatever I wanted.  I stood out.  People would stop me and compliment my style, much like they do now…mostly because I dress differently than the “norm”.  But then, post college, I found myself in a situation where everyone around me was once again, “normal” for the most part.  I somehow started to revert to my childhood feelings of just wanting to fit in.  Maybe it’s because I never experienced it as a kid, maybe I just wanted too badly for my friends to accept me as one of them, I don’t know…I longed to fit in.  Sometimes I look back at the way I dressed during those years and I think…”my gosh, where did I go?”

Now, let me be clear.  I’m not bashing that time in my life or my friends or where I was.  I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting to fit in.  We all have an innate desire to be part of something, and there are times in our life when we just kind of need to feel like “one of the group”.  But I think in my case, I kind of lost a bit of my edge for a while.  No worries…I got it back.  But you guys, I quite honestly think that I am both of these people on different days.  I want to stand out and I want to fit in.  And I think that’s okay.  There are days when I dress completely “normal”.  I just kind of want to feel like a “cool kid” and so I wear something that most people would wear.  Now, those days aren’t often, but they do happen.  And it’s okay.  Most days I dress like it’s Halloween and there was a fire sale at the local thrift store in the “crazy lady” section (they should SO have those at thrift stores…it would make it a lot easier for me to find the stuff I’m looking for), but occasionally, I just need to feel like I wanted so badly for my life to be as a child.  It’s okay, you guys.  You can do both.

This outfit is me “fitting in” and “standing out” all at once.  I’ve been wanting a leopard skirt for a while, but resisting the urge to buy an expensive one from a popular brand…this whole outfit is thrifted or vintage.  It’s my silent rebellion!  I’m fitting in while doing it my OWN UNIQUE WAY!  See?  You can totally do both!!  I love looking at styled photos from say, Free People or couture designers and challenging myself to do that in my own way.  It’s a fun way to both be unique and expressive and to also follow trends.  Because it’s completely okay to like something just because you’ve been seeing people wear it and you think it’s cute.  Stand out and fit in.  Be all the people you are at once.  And don’t tell your therapist I said that, because it sounds like I’m encouraging you to be a crazy person.  :)

Happy Wednesday
Katy

 

Leopard IS a Neutral

Working at a resale shop, I often have the privilege of getting to style women of all ages and all styles.  I get to talk to them about what they like, what they won’t wear, and how they like to style themselves.  Everyone is so different in their style personality and their lists of “dos and don’ts” for getting dressed!  One of the things I’ve noticed is that there are certain topics or items that when they come up, the response is either a adamant: YES I LOVE IT or the exact opposite…an: I WOULD RATHER GO NAKED THAN WEAR ____.  Okay okay, maybe the dislike isn’t quite THAT strong, but you get the general idea!!  Among those things are: the color yellow, palazzo pants, patterned leggings or pants, strapless things, maxi dresses, and yes, leopard.  I completely understand this.  Sometimes leopard can conjure up an image of a flashy, skin tight, blingy, way over the top outfit that turns women off to the pattern all together.  And if you’re the kind of person who likes to wear a simpler, more understated look and this is your association with leopard, then I totally get it!

I’m here to tell you today that leopard print can be a neutral.  For all you who want to start pattern mixing…leopard is one of those patterns that mixes quite well with florals and plaids, making it a very basic pattern to mix in to your wardrobe.  Leopard print booties are a great way to add a pop of pattern to a simple jeans and tee.  A leopard print scarf can make a black dress so chic.  It’s a great accent pattern!

I have leopard EVERYTHING.  I could do it from head to toe (alright I couldn’t do it well…I just COULD clothe myself in it from head to toe if I wanted to, you know what I mean!).  I love it.  You know what I love it with?  The color red and cowboy boots.  So that’s what I’m going to show you today…how to wear leopard in a more fun, boho cowgirl kind of way!  Because if that doesn’t sound like fun then I don’t know what does!!

Okay so with this geometric sweater, this leopard skirt totally looks nothing like the traditional ways you often see leopard being worn.  If you  mix leopard with more masculine pieces and strong primary colors, it won’t have that fluffy, little girl look it can have like when it’s mixed with pink or purple.  I also love how cowboy boots make it more casual.

Don’t you love how red mixes with leopard?  When you add a vintage men’s graphic tee, again it makes leopard more of a neutral and fun piece.

I love how herringbone mixes with leopard.  Again, kind of a menswear inspired outfit.  The brown suede and black fringe on the scarf really ties together the brown and black of the skirt.

Leopard doesn’t have to be worn in a skin tight bodycon dress.  Although that’s super sexy…it doesn’t have to be like that!  It can be fun, casual, and bohemian when done right!!

Give it a shot!  You never know till you try it!!

Happy middle of the week!

Katy

That Time I Found a $7 Jumpsuit

I love vintage finds and super unique stuff and all that jazz.  But every once in a while you just gotta go to H&M, know what I’m saying?  Because then you find a $7 jumpsuit…and you literally feel like you are at the thrift store getting a screaming great deal.  I am all about shopping from local stores.  Buying from artisans.  Finding one of a kind items.  But occasionally, I just gotta check out what’s going on at the big ol box stores.

I was in Santa Barbara (the closest H&M until spring 2016!) and I ran in for a few minutes to check out what was new and maybe get a few tanks or staples to go under all that crazy vintage fluff I love to wear so much.  I saw this jumpsuit…on the sale rack…for $7.  Oh freaking em gee.  I am telling you, this is the perfect grocery shopping, weekend comfy casual jumpsuit…but with the right accessories, it can TOTALLY be an amazing dressed up outfit too.  SCORE.

 

There are just so many ways to wear this, but no matter what, it’s lightweight, flowy, got a super cute pattern, and it was SEVEN DOLLARS.  Yep.  Occasionally I gotta go with the masses at the box stores.  Later, I’ll tell you about my $10 dress I scored too :)

HAPPY FRIDAY!!!
Katy

What is Normal Really??

Sometimes I wish I was normal.  I know, what a loaded statement right??  Because it brings up the question…what is normal?  And also…who IS actually normal??  But really what I mean is, sometimes I wish I just didn’t gravitate towards extremes in life…costumes for clothing…and dreams that are larger than life.  There are just those moments when I imagine what things would be like if I were different.  I think we all do though, right?  I think it just feels like things could be easier in my life if I didn’t always try to fight for the seemingly impossible.  And it does seem like at times it would be much simpler if I just had “normal” clothes (it would sure make my closet smaller!).  But it would definitely be less fun.  Case in point are these Friday Finds.  I’ve been wanting a leather fringe vest.  But this one from Classic Rock Couture not only has fringe…it has hand painted stars and beads on it too.  Um more is definitely MORE and more is better to me!  These necklaces are from a treasure trove of a store called Admire Boutique in Atascadero.  And not only are they amazing on their own…TOGETHER they are just BETTER.   Yep.  I like extremes obviously.  And I’m just gonna have to deal with the fact that I do not do “normal” clothing and I like life to be…well, larger than life.  It’s just who I am.

The shirt I found at Ruby Rose in SLO and I just love the red graphic on the tee with the vest and jewelry.

I’ve gotta just remember to own who I am…we all do really.  Because it takes all types of “not normal” people (which is all of us really!) to make life interesting!

Happy Friday!

Katy

Vintage Jumpsuit on a Tuesday

I love jumpsuits.  I think I almost have one for every week of the year.  And that’s still not enough!  When I found this one though, it was like one of those amazing moments where the heavens opened and my heart did a little pitter patter…okay sure that’s totally dramatic, but it was a great moment alright.  There’s nothing like finding a legit vintage jumpsuit.  Naturally, I loved it from the moment I put it on.

Once I got it home, I put it on and my first thought was: “oh crap…how am I going to wear a bra with this??”  It’s one of those classic fashion problems.  Undergarments.  Hated, and yet so needed all at once.  When Bridget Jones had a love/ hate relationship with her “scary panties” (aka: Spanx), all womankind understood.  How much we need those perfect undergarments, even when they’re ugly, uncomfortable, or so complicated you actually have to tape them on…all in the name of looking good in the outfit you’ve chosen.  I mean let’s be honest.  That nude thong sitting in your drawer wasn’t bought for comfort.

So back to my plunging neckline and backless situation…vintage situation though, so totes worth it (as the cool kids are saying these days).  I looked around a little online and figured I’d end up with something halter and backless, but couldn’t find just the right thing that wouldn’t show and make my amazing jumpsuit look weird.  Then I went into one of my favorite stores downtown and found this little Free People bra.  I realize it doesn’t match and it TOTALLY shows…but I actually thought it added to the outfit.  It’s almost like wearing a little tank top underneath so I don’t feel quite so naked in the back…but still keeps the integrity and feel of the jumpsuit.  Plus it’s super cute…not scary, ugly, or involving complicated tape.

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