Fashion Feeling: Perspective Changes Things

You know how often times people say: “Perspective is everything”? or something to that effect?  It’s a common piece of advice that’s given out freely, usually when someone is struggling with an area of their lives.  I was thinking about this recently while listening to someone talk about a struggle they were dealing with in their current situation.  Perspective is an interesting thing isn’t it?  When you think about it, you could put two people in the same situation, and they can come out describing that situation completely differently.  In that way, perspective is everything.  However, I sometimes get the feeling that when I’m being told this piece of advice, it means that I shouldn’t be looking forward or striving for greater things.  Let me explain.

I’d like to propose a change to this quote.  I would like to say: “perspective CHANGES everything.”  That one little word, to me, is everything!  I completely believe that having the correct perspective is incredibly important, and quite honestly, can be everything in determining your future.  But I don’t think we should just change our perspective on our situation, then sit still.  Say you hate your job.  It’s not what you were made for, it drains the life out of you, and it’s basically something you do just to survive.  Those are valid feelings, and nowhere in the world should anyone say: “you should just learn to love it and stick with it forever!” because that’s not always the truth!  However, you could flip it around and say: “I’m so grateful that I can make a living right now, while I pursue what other things/jobs I can do that bring me more fulfillment than this job right now.”  I think if we can use our perspective to help propel us forward, we can do a lot of amazing things.  So I guess what I’m saying, is that I agree with the statement: “perspective is everything” AS LONG AS we don’t use it to basically tell ourselves that we are stuck and we may as well make the best of it.  Which, sure, there are seasons in life that are very much like that.  I understand.  I’ve been there.  But the good news is, seasons don’t last forever, we can ALWAYS learn new skills, and the better perspective we have on where we are and where we can go next, the more likely we are to go places!  Perspective on where we are, WHO we are, and what we are capable of CHANGES EVERYTHING.

I’ve had this shirt from Anthropologie for years now.  I love it, but I never wear it anymore.  I bought it right after having my second baby and it was literally the magic shirt that made me look thinner when I was most definitely NOT.  It’s one of those shirts that I would have bought no matter what, but because I wore it when I wasn’t feeling all that thin, I have a hard time wearing it now that I’ve lost more weight.  If you’ve ever gone through dramatic weight loss or had a baby you know those pieces I’m talking about!  So the other day, I was looking at the shirt and thought, what if I looked at it differently.  What if I wore it BACKWARDS?  And voila.  My perspective changed!

The bralette is the magic piece for backless tops because it adds a little pizazz!  Mine is Free People.  This top is old, but here’s a similar one if you want to try this out!  The jeans are vintage Levi’s and the shoes are vintage loafers (if you don’t have loafers, get some!!)  My necklace is from the fabulous Free To Wander on Etsy.

I wish changing my perspective on life was as easy as putting my shirt on differently.  But we all gotta start somewhere and just do our best!
Katy

Switch It Up: Slip Dresses

Dontcha just love it when something you’ve been collecting and loving for so many years is finally in style?  You know, when everyone suddenly thinks you’re copying the latest trends…and you’re screaming NO I WAS DOING THIS LIKE THREE YEARS AGO!  And no one really cares?  Man I need more coffee today…I feel as though the cranky part of me is eating the peaceful calm side of me.  Like I have a peaceful calm side.  (*hysterical laughter from my husband)  I’ve talked about my love for slip dresses before, but let me just reminisce for a moment about the GIANT BOX OF VINTAGE SLIPS that I got rid of when I finally gave up hope that I’d ever wear them again.  I know, sometimes I am so far away from being smart it scares me.  But now, I’m collecting them once again, making up for my momentary lapse in judgement.  We can call like three years “momentary” right? Okay, thanks.

Let’s talk slips.  Everyone’s doing it.  And if everyone jumped off a cliff we probably would too, right?  (occasionally the “mom” in me rears its ugly head, sorry kids)  It’s cool and it’s fun and thanks to Courtney Love in the 90’s, it’s retro chic.  The great news about slipping into a slip dress, is that they are plentiful, can be relatively inexpensive, and are quite varied in specific style amongst themselves.  Theres the lacy ones with lots of darts that are more fitted.  There are the simple satin ones that are more likely from the 80’s or 90’s that are less fancy.  And hey, you can even find new reproductions if vintage or thrifting isn’t your thing!

Business Pajama Casual
I love the combination of a slip dress and a striped, gingham, or plaid button down.  It’s the secret 90’s fashion lover in me I guess.

This look is super simple, kind of looks like you’re wearing your boyfriend’s shirt…it has that sexy “I just rolled out of bed” look to it.  It’s an easy one to reproduce!  Vintage slip plus over sized button down, and good to go!  I added the fringe Converse because it kind of adds to the tomboyish look with a fun flair.

Retro Fabulous
I love a ringer tee.  When you layer a slip over a tee, it almost has a vest-like effect.  It’s interesting and different.  Adding the destroyed boyfriend jeans definitely gives this a bit of a 70’s meets 90’s vibe.

Easy to create…any tee, doesn’t even have to be a ringer…it can be a v-neck or a plain tee too, and some baggy jeans and you’re good to go.

Tuck It In
The magic of a slip dress, or any simple sheath dress, is that you can double it as a top when you tuck it into a maxi skirt!

Belt it or not, use a midi or a maxi, there are plenty of options to this look!  Remember too, if you tuck a slip dress into a skirt that’s rather, er, see through, you can use the bottom of the dress as an ACTUAL slip!

If you aren’t comfortable with thrifting one or you aren’t into the vintage ones, check out these for a cotton minimalist approach (v-neck version here) and for a more vintage inspired look check out these.

Go forth, and slip into something more slip dress like!
Katy

On Jealousy and Fringe

Jealousy.  It’s one of those feelings that we all come across at one point or another.  And is it just me, or has social media managed to feed the green-eyed monster and somehow made it…bigger and more accessible?  It’s kind of the worst, yuckiest feeling, and yet…it still happens whether we like it or not.  Today, I had a run in with the not-so-lovely feeling.

I was out and about, and I saw someone who I actually do not know personally.  At all.  But thanks to the magic of social media, I know quite a bit about her.  At least, what she chooses to share that is (I feel like that always needs to be clarified, right?).  So I saw her, and because I “know so much about her”, I found myself feeling jealous.  Before I knew it, I was thinking things like: “wow it must be nice to be her…to have so much money…to be able to do and buy whatever she wants…” I mean, it took all of 3.5 seconds for my thoughts to escalate to this point where I was feeling angry with her.  What on earth??  I was so repulsed by my thoughts and feelings…and yet I still had them.  I really know NOTHING about her as a person.  And yet, for 3.5 seconds, I was kinda sorta actively hating her.  Wow.  I’ve found that it’s gotten easier and easier for me to forgive people for being judgmental and mean at times because, hi, my name is Katy, and I sometimes have judgmental and mean thoughts.  Yep.  I’m no better than anyone else.  My world has been rocked, yet again!

So in the moment I was jealous of this poor girl who had no idea I was directing laser beam thoughts of hate at her, I didn’t think for a second about who she was, what her life is/has been like, or what she’s been through.  I have no idea.  I mean really, I have NO IDEA.  I don’t know her story.  I mean, for all I know, she could have had a very difficult life up to this point.  I REALLY DON’T KNOW, and that’s the problem with jealousy.  I don’t know what it’s like to be her, what she feels, and who she is as a human.  Picture this.  What if you took a homeless person who had been through hell, and overnight made her a multimillionaire.  You gave her a brand new Range Rover, an expensive makeover, and all the right social media photos.  I bet you anything, people would say those exact things I had thought earlier today.  “wow, it must be nice to be her!”  IS IT?  Gosh we really DON’T KNOW, do we??  Sure, there are some people who do seem to live a sort of “charmed life”, but no matter what, we do not know what it’s like to live from their perspective.  I talked myself down from hate laser beams quickly…once I realized how out of hand my thinking had become.

Regardless, her story is not my story.  Sure, she has stuff I want.  That’s a normal, natural part of life.  Just because she has it, doesn’t mean I can’t have it.  There’s enough to go around.  But my story, my timeline, and my path is not hers, and it would be better if I could focus on MY story instead of looking over at hers and wishing that it was mine.  Easier said than done, but it’s something I remind myself of often.  None of us are immune from jealousy, and all of us are guilty from time to time of coveting someone else position in life.  Eyes forward, encourage each other, and keep moving forward.  That’s what we have to do.  Because looking at each other isn’t really forward is it…it’s more like trying to hop the fence and go sideways.

Gotta wear my attitude like want to wear my clothes.  Boldly and with grace.


My good friend found me this top from her friend up in San Francisco, Souls of California (she has the BEST vintage!) and it’s insane.  It’s drapey and fringy and all the things I love!  I put it with vintage Levi’s, thrifted braided huarache like sandals and this amazing white turquoise necklace handmade by DesertMermaid.

Hope you are loving living YOUR story this week!  I’m working on that right now… ;)
Katy

 

On Basics…and Boyfriend Jeans

Hey it’s Wednesday!  That means it must be time for fun with BASICS right?!  You are quite correct!  Today for “Basics…Anything But”, I’ve come up with three looks for a style of denim that is most likely somewhere in your closet, and if it’s not, maybe it should be: the classic boyfriend jean.  I decided to do each of the looks with a different pair of this style of denim, because even though the boyfriend fit is pretty standard, of course there are some of variations on this theme.  Some fit more like a classic baggy pair, like you maybe could have actually stolen them from your boyfriend, and then there’s the more slim fit skinnier boyfriend pair.  (For those of you who have super skinny boyfriends, obviously.  Just kidding.)  There’s also usually a relative amount of distressing on these jeans, but it can range from the slight to the crazy trashed look of say, the One Teaspoon Denim.

THE JEANS:  Okay, so I used three quite different pairs.  One is a vintage men’s pair of Levi’s, another a distressed women’s pair of Levi’s, and then finally, a more classic Gap pair.  I feel like I can’t talk about boyfriend jeans without mentioning the original, Current/Elliott, who came out with this style and caused an explosion in denim years ago.  Theirs are an awesome investment piece if you are looking to buy a pricer pair, OR you can sometimes find them at places like Nordstrom Rack, Off Fifth, and TJ Maxx or Marshall’s at a lower price point.  Other places to find good boyfriend jeans are Gap (seriously one of the best places I’ve found to get good ones!), One Teaspoon (they’re pricey but adorable), thrift stores, Cotton On (great price!), and Old Navy (more bargain prices).  How much you spend really should depend on how they fit you and also how committed you are to this style, whether it’s something you want to just try out and wear occasionally or you want to invest in a good pair you are going to wear more often.

Let’s get going!  There’s a lot of ways you can rock the bf jeans, but hopefully if this is a style you have been stumped on or maybe bored with, this will get your creative style juices going!

DON’T MESS WITH ME, I’M PREPPY
This look is a really fun one I think because it’s a little bit preppy, and a little bit tough!  It’s nice to take something like polka dots and toughen them up a bit!  For this look I used slightly distressed Gap boyfriend jeans (they call them “girlfriend jeans” right now there, but they’re a slimmer fit than the traditional pair.  I love using lace tank tops as vests, and this one from Zara is just perfect for that!

Jeans HERE, blouse HERE, vest HERE, loafers HERE, necklace HERE. (these are all just similar pieces to what I’m wearing).
THRIFTY TIP:  Loafers are a great thing to look at thrift stores for!  These one’s I thrifted and they are PERFECT for only $20!  If you’re a polka dot lover, this is also a pattern that’s a great thrift find!  This top I am wearing is a brand new, with the tags on Free People sheer blouse…marked at $88, and I paid $4 for it at Goodwill.
SWAP IT OUT: A plaid shirt would be super cute with this look.  You can switch out the polka dots with plaid and the loafers for booties!
CRAFTY DIY: If you can’t seem to find a sleepless lace top, you can always get any lace top you can find at a thrift store and cut the sleeves off!

I’M WITH THE BAND
I love this look because it’s a total “I feel so cool” outfit!  I used a super distressed pair of Levi’s for this look and a bunch of thrifted stuff…it’s a fun one :)

Jeans HERE, shirt HERE, kimono HERE, booties HERE, necklace HERE. (style suggestions based on this look!)
THRIFTY TIP: Kimonos are a great thing to hunt for in the ROBE/NIGHTGOWN section of the thrift stores as I’ve mentioned before.  Also, the link above the the American Eagle Outfitters jeans is a great denim steal!
SWAP IT OUT: Instead of a band tee, use a patterned or plain tee and put a denim or plaid button down over it and wear it open.  Totally changes the look of the outfit, but still super cool!
CRAFTY DIY: Get some awesome jeans at the thrift store and distress them yourself!  HERE’S an awesome post on how to do it!

MY BOYFRIEND’S NOT BOHO BUT MY OUTFIT IS
For this last look, I used my vintage Levi’s that are my most baggy boyfriend fit.  One of the tricks to wearing the baggier styles is to make sure that the top you are wearing is not too long or oversized…otherwise your outfit will just be way too baggy overall!

Jeans HERE, booties HERE, top HERE.
THRIFTY TIP:  These jeans are like the classic thrifted boyfriend jeans.  I really recommend checking the mens section for the smaller sizes to achieve this look!
SWAP IT OUT:  A puff sleeve top would be adorable with this look too.  Add a vest on top of that, and you have a whole new look!
CRAFTY DIY: Make your own white turquoise necklace!  Just buy a strand of beads and string them and you’re golden!

I love boyfriend jeans.  Bell Bottoms are my total go-to, but boyfriend jeans have a relaxed cool vibe to them that is just fun to mix in sometimes!  Hopefully you’ve got a pair and this will help you jazz them up a bit, but if you don’t have a pair, maybe there’s a link in here that will get you looking at finding the right pair for your body!

Happy happy Wednesday, hope your week is rockin
Katy

All About Boyfriend Jeans

The last day of my Week of Denim is a Friday, obviously, and I really think it calls for a great pair of vintage boyfriend jeans.  Like most girls, I’m kind of always on the hunt for amazing jeans…even though I have a lot of pairs that I love.  I rarely find new pairs that can rival what’s already in my closet, but occasionally the stars align and it happens.  When it comes to boyfriend jeans, the best pairs I’ve ever found are from Gap.  Weird, right?  I mean the best two pairs I’ve ever owned cost less than $20 each. I mean, of all the expensive pairs of jeans I own, those Gap ones are just as great.  I even had someone once ask me if my jeans were Current/Elliott (which I love), and I was like, um, no these actually were on sale for $15 at Gap.  I’m pretty sure I saw a cloud of dust she ran outta there immediately in the direction of the store.

Regardless of all my amazing pairs, I have been wanting a pair of true vintage Levi’s.  The kind I always see on Instagram that are that perfect light wash and are hand distressed…the holy grail of vintage boyfriend jeans.  They are super hard to find around where I live because there’s just not that many places to get great vintage here.  On my recent trip to Venice (California, not Italy!), I found them!  I was headed towards a vintage clothing shop that had great reviews on Yelp, when I happened upon another one on the way.  I had to pop in because it looked interesting.  It was way better than interesting.  I’m pretty sure that this was the best selection and prices of vintage clothes that I’ve ever seen.  Vintage graphic tees for days, vintage dresses, and JEANS.  I cannot wait to get back in there.  It’s a place called Gotta Have It, and you gotta go there.  It was the first of three vintage stores I went to there, but next time I go, I’m planning on stocking up there on shirts and jeans.  Needless to say, this is where I found my vintage Levi’s for less than $50.  Score!!

 

Excuse the blinding sliver of midriff that escaped in this photo.  Obviously Edward Cullen has nothing on my midsection these days.

Oh, and ps, that’s my awesome new necklace from Mountain Soul Jewelry hiding in that second picture. :)

The thing about boyfriend jeans is that they’re kind of the anti-jean.  They’re the comfy pair that doesn’t make you have to suck in your gut or gear up for squeezing into them.  They’re the pajama pant of jeans.  And once I feel a little thinner, I’ll probably just wear a white tank with them and feel like I’m channeling Jennifer Aniston’s cool easy vibe.

I’m going to go put on my new jeans and feel super cool now.  Happy Friday!

Katy