First impressions are so interesting aren’t they? I know you should “never judge a book by its cover” and all that, but of COURSE the cover has at least a TINY bit to do with the book doesn’t it? Sometimes it doesn’t have as much to do with it as we THINK it does, but it’s most definitely part of who/what that book is. Funny how some people make such a strong impression that it kind of defines part of who you see them to be forever really, and other people just kind of somehow “come to be” in your life and you don’t really remember the first time you met them. Some people I feel like kind of just fade into our lives and they just always ARE, and others, well, you most CERTAINLY remember what kind of impression they made right off the bat.
When I was at Cal Poly, in one of my classes we had to give a mini presentation about who we were during the first day of class. Nothing major, we didn’t have to prepare anything, it was more of a “who are you?” type thing so that we knew more than each other’s faces and maybe a name or two. This one guy, let’s call him “Joe” (*names have been changed to protect the innocent/guilty and I most DEFINITELY DO remember his name), decided that just simply answering the question was not enough. While most of us sat in our chairs and gave the usual: “my name is ______ and I like shopping and reading and long walks on the beach blah blah”, when it was his turn he leapt up and ran to the front of the room. He immediately grabbed a dry erase marker and began drawing on the board as though we were playing some sort of Pictionary game. We watched as he drew, not sure where this was going, and honestly it didn’t look like it was going anyplace good. He finally finished his “work of art” and turned to face the class. “Hi! I’m Joe*! And THIS (he motioned dramatically at the drawing on the board) is a diagram of my butt.” He proceeded to explain where there was hair, as well as where there was not hair on his butt, why this was interesting, and probably some other details about himself that no one remembered because we were all stunned into a silence, memorizing that image of his butt against our wills. When he finished, the professor gave him a long hard look, said: “Okaayyyyyy…thank you?” and later gave him QUITE a talking to about how inappropriate this presentation was. Uh…YOU THINK??? I remember this guy’s real name. But I called him “butt guy” instead, and he has been henceforth known as “butt guy” by my husband too. I mean, the other day, I saw someone I went to college with and Eric said, “Oh was that butt guy?” You SEE??? His first impression will NEVER DIE amongst those of us who were in that class that day. I know nothing about him. But I’m a wealth of information on his rear end. Unfortunately.
Ah yes, first impressions. There have been times when people have told me their first impressions of me. Usually if I’m getting told by people what they thought of me initially, it’s because they formed a bad impression of me, and not a good one. Otherwise it’s not really a great story. Like “oh when I met you I thought you were super nice haha…” yeah not nearly as good of a story as “I thought you were vapid, popular, ditzy, and vain.” Pretty sure I’ve heard some form of all of these things about myself. Weird because I’m really not popular and I’m so self deprecating most days people would not think I was all that vain. I do say a lot of dumb stuff probably too loudly so sure I’ll take ditzy no problem…whatever I used to be a blonde right!? Anyway, whenever people are telling me their first impressions of me its because they were wrong…(“hey you’re not popular at all!” just kidding, see there’s the self deprecating side speaking up!) and they’ve realized that I’m not who I came across as at all.
To be completely honest, UNLESS you are talking about your butt along with diagrams and stuff, I’m pretty sure what you are wearing comes into play largely with your first impression. Sure it’s also your facial expressions, body language, and what’s coming out of your mouth…but clothes are an easy first impression maker. This is partly why I love clothes though…it’s a way of expressing yourself in a very visual way that’s immediate. It’s like you get to put together your own piece of art, then wear it to show people: “Hey, I made this outfit!” It may not always come across as who you are completely, but it’s your creation and it expresses a part of your creativity and your personality!
Yep I’m two posts in a row with the caftans guys, what can I say. I didn’t plan it that way, but I bought this thing the INSTANT I saw it on The Hippie Shake‘s website it was too amazing. I mean, most caftans are like 1970s Florida beach wear, which I LOVE. But this one, this one is like 1970s cowboy meets California beach! The choker is from PrickliePear and the boots are handmade…get similar ones from Hillbillygypsy Boots!
Hope your week is starting off well, and that you haven’t seen any diagrams of anyone’s rear ends lately. It really does stick with you…