On First Impressions and Cowboy Caftans

First impressions are so interesting aren’t they?  I know you should “never judge a book by its cover” and all that, but of COURSE the cover has at least a TINY bit to do with the book doesn’t it?  Sometimes it doesn’t have as much to do with it  as we THINK it does, but it’s most definitely part of who/what that book is.  Funny how some people make such a strong impression that it kind of defines part of who you see them to be forever really, and other people just kind of somehow “come to be” in your life and you don’t really remember the first time you met them.  Some people I feel like kind of just fade into our lives and they just always ARE, and others, well, you most CERTAINLY remember what kind of impression they made right off the bat.

When I was at Cal Poly, in one of my classes we had to give a mini presentation about who we were during the first day of class.  Nothing major, we didn’t have to prepare anything, it was more of a “who are you?” type thing so that we knew more than each other’s faces and maybe a name or two.  This one guy, let’s call him “Joe” (*names have been changed to protect the innocent/guilty and I most DEFINITELY DO remember his name), decided that just simply answering the question was not enough.  While most of us sat in our chairs and gave the usual: “my name is ______ and I like shopping and reading and long walks on the beach blah blah”, when it was his turn he leapt up and ran to the front of the room.  He immediately grabbed a dry erase marker and began drawing on the board as though we were playing some sort of Pictionary game.  We watched as he drew, not sure where this was going, and honestly it didn’t look like it was going anyplace good.  He finally finished his “work of art” and turned to face the class.  “Hi!  I’m Joe*!  And THIS (he motioned dramatically at the drawing on the board) is a diagram of my butt.”  He proceeded to explain where there was hair, as well as where there was not hair on his butt, why this was interesting, and probably some other details about himself that no one remembered because we were all stunned into a silence, memorizing that image of his butt against our wills.  When he finished, the professor gave him a long hard look, said: “Okaayyyyyy…thank you?” and later gave him QUITE a talking to about how inappropriate this presentation was.  Uh…YOU THINK???  I remember this guy’s real name.  But I called him “butt guy” instead, and he has been henceforth known as “butt guy” by my husband too.  I mean, the other day, I saw someone I went to college with and Eric said, “Oh was that butt guy?”  You SEE???  His first impression will NEVER DIE amongst those of us who were in that class that day.  I know nothing about him.  But I’m a wealth of information on his rear end.  Unfortunately.

Ah yes, first impressions.  There have been times when people have told me their first impressions of me.  Usually if I’m getting told by people what they thought of me initially, it’s because they formed a bad impression of me, and not a good one.  Otherwise it’s not really a great story.  Like “oh when I met you I thought you were super nice haha…” yeah not nearly as good of a story as “I thought you were vapid, popular, ditzy, and vain.”  Pretty sure I’ve heard some form of all of these things about myself.  Weird because I’m really not popular and I’m so self deprecating most days people would not think I was all that vain.  I do say a lot of dumb stuff probably too loudly so sure I’ll take ditzy no problem…whatever I used to be a blonde right!?  Anyway, whenever people are telling me their first impressions of me its because they were wrong…(“hey you’re not popular at all!” just kidding, see there’s the self deprecating side speaking up!) and they’ve realized that I’m not who I came across as at all.

To be completely honest, UNLESS you are talking about your butt along with diagrams and stuff, I’m pretty sure what you are wearing comes into play largely with your first impression.  Sure it’s also your facial expressions, body language, and what’s coming out of your mouth…but clothes are an easy first impression maker.  This is partly why I love clothes though…it’s a way of expressing yourself in a very visual way that’s immediate.  It’s like you get to put together your own piece of art, then wear it to show people:  “Hey, I made this outfit!”  It may not always come across as who you are completely, but it’s your creation and it expresses a part of your creativity and your personality!

Yep I’m two posts in a row with the caftans guys, what can I say.  I didn’t plan it that way, but I bought this thing the INSTANT I saw it on The Hippie Shake‘s website it was too amazing.  I mean, most caftans are like 1970s Florida beach wear, which I LOVE.  But this one, this one is like 1970s cowboy meets California beach!  The choker is from PrickliePear and the boots are handmade…get similar ones from Hillbillygypsy Boots!

Hope your week is starting off well, and that you haven’t seen any diagrams of anyone’s rear ends lately.  It really does stick with you…
Katy

Denim, Culottes, and Dress Codes

What is it about denim that makes it get such a bad rap?  It seems like in this world where everyone’s got a dress code, denim is the one thing that ALWAYS lands on the top of the list.  I grew up with dress codes.  I went from my childhood of homeschooling with a mom who had completely different opinions about what I should wear than I did, to a private high school with an uber strict code.  It was like going from one constant clothing argument to another.

My mom felt like I should wear pastels.  There were no two piece swimsuits.  No dark colors.  And jeans?  Well let’s just say I didn’t wear the cool jeans.  My high school, being all about modesty of course had super easy rules to follow, like no skirts shorter than four inches above the (bended) knee.  So every week, all the tall girls (like me) were dragged into the office under suspicion of dressing immodestly, told to kneel down, and had a ruler placed on the floor to see how short our skirts were.  Basically that meant that your skirt could be no shorter than knee length.  Being the mid to late 90s, it was virtually impossible to find skirts like this.  It was all mini skirts. Maxi skirts?  What the heck are those?  Did you ever see Alicia Silverstone wearing one of those in Clueless?  I mean I honestly don’t even know what my high school dress code would have said about culottes or cropped pants or leggings because those were nowhere to be found.  When culottes came back into style I rejoiced, but then silently wept for my high school self who could have had so much better style if only this had happened while Britney was accidentally playing with our hearts again.

Back to denim.  The dress code SPECIFICALLY stated NO SHREDDED OR FRAYED jeans.  They were NOT to be tolerated.  This was obviously a sign of rebellion and anarchist tendencies and all violators were to be given detention.  I tried very hard to abide by this rule, but let’s be honest, sometimes jeans fray and there’s nothing you can do about it.  I remember being followed across the parking lot by a hyper vigilant office lady/dress code enforcer who informed me that there was a string hanging off my jeans and was I going to cut it off?  I told her it wasn’t likely and kept walking.  This was my only act of rebellion in high school.  And it felt GREAT.

Now I celebrate my freedom by wearing cutoffs, culottes, distressed jeans, unhemmed frayed jeans, and, well, mini skirts because I can.  Denim is just misunderstood if you ask me.

 

I chose this outfit for my Week of Denim because it’s just vintage denim at it’s finest.  Wearing denim with denim can be tricky because you don’t want to be TOO matchy matchy, but it totally works as long as the hues of the top and the bottom compliment each other.  I don’t wear heels often at all, and culottes are made for heels.  These booties have just enough of a heel that they actually work and still allow me to walk comfortably.  I love the embroidery and button detail on this top from Ruby Rose.  And of course, I just add turquoise with everything because it’s my favorite and it really looks great with everything.

Ah if only I had a time machine to go back to high school.  I’d be the coolest, most forward thinking dresser around.

Back to the weekly grind today…wear your denim proudly!

Katy

Friday Finds…Cowgirl Inspired

I like jewelry.  I mean come on, I’m a girl.  My daughter is only one and a half and she already understands the concept of a good accessory.  Granted, her idea of “accessories” is my underwear hanging around her neck, but she’s got the right concept.  I like jewelry, but honestly, I really pretty much only like statement jewelry most of the time.  With a few exceptions, all the stuff I wear is turquoise, gold coins, collars, and just large pieces that stand out quite prominently.  That’s why when I discovered this necklace from Mountain Soul Jewelry on Etsy.com I was SUPER excited.

I probably should have been a cowgirl.  When I was seven, my lifelong dream was to be a world champion barrel racer.  I don’t think I actually knew what barrel racing was and I’d seen a horse all of a few times in my known life, but I was gonna be a world champ dang it.  I wanted all the gear.  The hat, the boots, all the cool fringy accessories (wow haven’t changed much since seven, have I?) and to be all cowgirl cool leading my horse around everywhere.  (I was too scared to actually ride one.  Leading it around was just like a cool accessory to me.)  Obviously I didn’t fulfill my childhood dream (I have ridden a horse though, fyi.) but I still like to dress like a cowgirl, quite often actually.

When I found Mountain Soul Jewelry I immediately knew I needed some of their stuff.  First of all, it’s so amazing when you order something and you know you’re ordering from a person and not a large company.  There’s something about things being made with love by an artist that makes them much more special.  I love this necklace because it’s totally like an updated bolo tie.  It’s a little more fashion-y than a bolo (which those are super cool too) and a little more girly.  I feel like this is a piece that will be on endless repeat with my outfits.  Does it go over a basic t shirt?  Yes.  How about a floral dress?  Absolutely.  With a vintage jumpsuit?  Um, of course.  The leather is soft and it’s lightweight and easy to slip over your head and run out the door.  Oh, my kids love the beads on the fringe, so that’s their two cents on the whole thing.

 

If you are looking for a new way to add some interest to your outfits, you need to check out Mountain Soul Jewelry.  You know how cowboy boots go with everything and make everything look cooler?  This necklace is just like that.

So happy to be wearing this piece for my Friday Finds.  It’s a winner.

Happy Friday!
Katy