On Being My Own Sheriff and Fringe

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to be nice and encouraging to other people, but not so much to yourself?  That’s how it is for me at least.  I sometimes find myself encouraging people in the very same areas that just a few hours before, I was discouraging myself about.  It’s frustrating.  I find that when it comes to myself, I’m a total mean girl.  To me.  I don’t need any help from anyone else, I can be my own worst enemy.

When it comes to other people, I think it’s easy to have more perspective.  I can sit and listen to someone tell me a story, even a discouraging one, and I can somehow find the good in it, the good that will come out of it, or even just the ability to encourage them to hang in there and keep on going because the best is yet to come.  However, when I see my own story, and only find all the things that are hard, the things that feel impossible, and then stay focused on those things.  There are certain subjects that are total “triggers” I think in our lives.  Those things that set us off and get us on that road to binge eating potato chips and staying in our pajamas because “it’s just not worth trying”.  I’ve got some of those triggers.  The car I drive right now.  My extra abdomen fat.  Seeing certain things that I’ve wanted my whole life.  Yep, those are the things that can send me into a box of kleenex, feeling like all of life is hopeless.

Gah.  What are we supposed to do though, avoid all those things that remind us of the stuff we have yet to accomplish?  Just not look at the things that hurt us?  That’s impossible!!!  No, I think it’s time for me to learn some self discipline.  I think that I need to start policing my thoughts a little bit better.  I need to start talking to myself about all the good things that are yet to come and the good things that have already come out of the difficulties.  Because they’re definitely there, but I need to stop ignoring them so much!  I think this is so much easier said than done.  I think that sometimes it kind of feels great to wallow, to be negative, and to let myself just “feel” everything that I’ve already felt a million times before, and honestly…it’s time to stop.  If I can encourage other people I can encourage myself.  There’s a new sheriff in town, and I’m not letting me get down about things that can, and WILL change!

Let’s talk about these pants.  I don’t know if there is much to say about them because…well when you see the photos, you’ll get it.  They are custom embroidered and hand fringed by @township31 on Instagram…she has become a dear friend and, well, I pretty much have a list a mile long of things she is custom doing for me.  My gosh.  She’s so talented it’s not even funny!  These pants are a pair of Current/Elliott flares that I’ve had in my closet for years, and I sent them to her to add some fringe and embroider the booty.  She came up with the rest and added some AMAZING stars on them (because rainbows and stars!!!!).  She’s a genius with denim, leather, and a needle and thread among many other things that she creates!

The first time I wore these pants, I felt like an old timey sheriff.  So now I call them my “sheriff pants”.  I like it.  Time to start dressing like a sheriff…and acting like one!  ;)

Happy Monday!
Katy

 

On Social Media and An Amazing Jacket

It’s been easy in the past for me to get kind of down on social media.  I stayed off Facebook completely till less than a year ago and I spent over a year not being on Instagram at all.  Not even to look at what other people were posting.  I’ve had some painful moments due to it, some times when I’ve seen things that have hurt me, made me feel like less than I am, or just discouraged me and caused me to wish things were different or that I was different.  However, I’ve discovered the one thing about it that I wouldn’t trade for anything.  The women I’ve met.  Seriously, I have met some of the greatest girls on Instagram…girls who the only thing that’s not great about them is that they aren’t close enough for me to hang out with!  It’s been SO encouraging and fun to “meet” these girls…whether it’s just in conversations on Instagram or actually in person.

During our recent trip to San Francisco, one of the girls I had “met” on Instagram reached out to me and asked if I wanted to meet up for coffee.  I was so excited because usually on these trips, my husband is in meetings for work and I just hang out by myself, which is fine for a bit, but hanging with someone is preferable to shopping alone!  Before meeting her, I had a moment of panic and I said to my husband: “oh no…I don’t know what she looks like, how will I know who she is??”  And he replied: “ummmm she will most definitely know who YOU ARE!”  Fine, I take a lot of selfies.  I get it.  It’s such an interesting thing meeting someone for the first time…when you’ve already had full conversations with them before.  And not only that, but since you’ve been looking at photo snapshots from their lives for so long, you kind of feel like you know them.  Social media has totally legitimized stalker behavior if you ask me!!  We hung out for the morning, and honestly, I felt like I had known her for years.  And yes, THAT is the amazing thing about social media too…”blind friend dates” are more like being longtime buddies thanks to the fact that you’ve gotten to know each other already.  It’s like a compatibility test for friendship.  Did you both like that photo of that vintage dress that just got posted?  You are 99% compatible as friends.

I had so much fun with her.  This scenario has repeated itself in different locations with different Instagram friends…and every single time, I feel like I’m nailing the friend game.  Which is much different from how it has been for me lately when I meet girls wherever I happen to be.  There’s usually a moment where the new girl I just met says: “I don’t really buy that many clothes…” and I’m like “oh…ok…that’s fun…” (awkward silence because I have no idea what to say next, but I’m guessing it will be about cows because that’s my “go to awkward silence” conversation.  And no, I don’t know anything about cows, which makes it even more awkward than it was.  I should probably find a new topic.)  So social media, forgive me for bashing on you so hardcore, and hey, thanks for all the cool girls you’ve hooked me up with!

The SUPER cool girl in San Francisco embroiders stuff like a boss, hence this INCREDIBLE hand fringed and embroidered denim beauty I’m sporting here.  Honestly, I really don’t have to be cool at all to wear this, because it’s so cool that it makes up for all my lack!!!!  You need to follow her… @township31 on Instagram, and please, have her embroider something for you because she’s the COOLEST PERSON and she’s SO TALENTED!!!

Do you SEE how cool this is?  I’m so thankful to have met her for so many reasons though.  Making friends as an adult is so much harder than it needs to be, and hanging out with her was just so easy.  The moral of the story is this: meet your Instagram friends, because they are even cooler in real life!

Pants are from Nightcap (on sale HERE) and worth the splurge trust me! And the necklace is from Etsy.

Happy start of your week!
Katy