Everyone’s got a story. I mean, just start talking to anyone and you can discover so many things about them…stuff you’d never expect sometimes. You know what I find really interesting though? Some people can tell a story filled with struggles and hardship, and you can walk away feeling encouraged…and others can tell a similar story and yet you leave feeling depressed. Because it’s not always the contents of the story that set the tone…it’s the FOCUS of the story and the ENDING that really matter.
I have a good friend who wants to have a baby. I know she’s going to soon. But the timing hasn’t clicked yet and so it’s just one of those things that she’s dealing with and trying to wait patiently until it happens. A few months ago, she told me that she was going to spend some time with one of her friends who was just about to have her second child and was feeling kind of lonely. So she did. Later on in the day, I got a text from her asking for encouragement…basically asking for me to remind her that it WOULD happen for her. I was puzzled, I mean, she had spent time with a friend who was literally about to give birth, and yet I could tell that she was feeling very discouraged and afraid in her own situation after spending time there. So I asked her what had happened, and she told me that the entire time, her friend had shared with her all about the struggles of infertility and warned her about all the things that could go wrong…and on and on and on! I was kind of shocked…I mean, sure her friend had experienced difficulties, but CLEARLY she had been successful in overcoming them, right? I mean, the triumph of having TWO healthy children after struggling so much should be a joyful story, not a cautionary tale!!! And then I started thinking more about it…and realized that we ALL do this more than we should.
How many times have we come through difficult situations and overcome…only to still be talking about the same old thing…the hardships, the pain, the bad, instead of the amazing outcome? Can you imagine if you were to read a book about a historical event, like a war or something, and the author didn’t spend any time on the ending…only because, well the triumph is implied right? What a TERRIBLE book that would be! And what if you were to read a book and the WHOLE thing was the struggle, the difficulty, the conflict, and then there was one line at the end that said: “oh yeah, and they won by the way.” Again, that would be a terrible way to tell a story.
Our lives are so much like books. There’s the premise, the “who we are and where the story all began”, and then begins the character development. We grow up and enter into the conflict(s) in our lives and sometimes, the end of the page or the chapter looks very bleak. Sometimes it looks like the main character has lost everything, or died, or has lost hope. And if we keep telling that story, forgetting that tomorrow or next month or next year begins a new page or chapter…we really aren’t telling the story correctly. You guys, we HAVE to share our stories. And yes, that includes the conflict, of course, otherwise the triumph means nothing. However, there is so much power in your story…for good or for bad. If you share your story as one of triumph or even triumph yet to come, you are encouraging someone in ways you may not even realize. And if you share it as one of defeat, one where regardless of the ending, it’s just a lot of hard and sad and bad…then you are discouraging someone in ways you don’t even know. You are passing on the heaviness, the hopelessness, and instead of inviting them to share in your triumph or to wait hopefully for it, you are telling a story without a proper ending. And that is just miserable!
So sure, this isn’t really “wintery” per say…but I know winter is not the end of the story! :) Spring is right around the corner, so I really felt like busting out this vintage floral chambray shirt from Ruby Rose and these 1970’s inspired wedges I’ve had in my closet from when I was buying 70’s stuff and had no idea that I loved it yet! Orange pants are my weakness…I bought these for Easter a long time ago and I love them just as much as the day I spotted them online! The squash blossom is sold out on Baublebar, but you can find some similar here and here.
Sharing your story is as important as wearing flowers in the winter…it brings hope and encouragement in ways you don’t even know!