Fashion Feelings: And Now, For Something Completely Embarrassing

Embarrassing moments happen to all of us.  Somehow I feel like I have them…a bit more often than most people.  Like, I’ll be trying to be all smooth and stuff walking through the parking lot, and then I’ll trip on the air in front of me and wobble down and then back up again a lot like one of those weird balloon stick figure guys they use to advertise for used car sales.  Yep, I have come to terms with the fact I am just not “smooth.”  But now, for something completely more embarrassing.

I’m going to be nice to you and share with you some of my favorite embarrassing moments.  Just because I love you, and I have no more pretense left of being a super cool person in the true popularity sense of the word.  So here goes.

The Moment I Realized I Was a “Forever Blonde”
I used to work full time in an office with a lot of guys.  Guys love sports.  I do not.  This makes for a lot of moments where I’d end up saying weird things like “call and audible” or “batting seven thousand” or whatever crap I had to say to make them understand me.  Yes, I can play that game (as long as it’s a game with WORDS and not a BALL).  That being said, I still have no idea how football is played really, and will probably always be trying to figure out why it is played as well.  One day I was in a meeting with two of the biggest sports fans in the office, and when the meeting ended, it moved rapidly on to sports as things often did.  The two guys were talking about their college team mascots, and the first guy said “we were the ______ (insert animal that has teeth and claws and runs really fast here)” and then the other guy explained that his team was the Bengals.  I’d like you to take a minute, close your eyes, and say the word “Bengal”.  Did you do it?  Now I can finish my story.  When he said “Bengal”, I heard “bangle” (he’s notorious for mispronouncing words in my very weak defense of this story) and I felt very confused.  The thoughts were swirling in my head, and unfortunately, when my thoughts swirl, my mouth starts moving much faster than it should.  So instead of taking a minute, processing what was being said, and THEN speaking, I blurted out “Wait.  Your team mascot was…BRACELETS?”  Both guys stopped, looked at me as if I was a three headed alien that had just landed in front of them and was picking all three of my noses with the same hand (now there’s a trick!) and the dead silence rang out.  I rapidly realized my IDIOTIC error in judgement, and I blabbed something about “haha oh yeah right you mean TIGERS…I thought you meant like BANGLES you know like the BRACELETS and I thought that was really weird hahahahaha (and on ad nauseum)” as I slowly backed out of the room.  They resumed their conversation as though nothing at all had happened because there’s no WAY on EARTH that anyone could be THAT STUPID RIGHT?  And now I have a fabulous story to tell about how my brain is eternally blonde and I actually thought that someone’s team mascot was a piece of jewelry.

The “Hair Petting” Incident
I’d like to start after the last story by saying that this one wasn’t my fault.  This was one of those weird and horrifying moments in your life that you look back on and say “what the heck was THAT??” But you do need to know that not all of these are my fault and I’m not a walking train wreck (most of the time).  Let’s begin.  I was in high school, singing on the church band as was one of my dreams since I love to sing.  There was a guy on the band, who was…interesting.  You know, like, nice enough, but just…a tad…different.  I was really young, so I for the most part kept my distance from the older guys because I wasn’t looking to date at that time, especially someone who wasn’t in high school as well.  However, that distance shrunk a bit one day in a weird way…  I was sitting in the back of the church during some special service or something that was going on (I don’t remember what happened and you’ll see why) and he was sitting behind me.  And then, the weird part happened.  He started…petting my hair.  Yes.  I’m as creeped out as you are right now.  I was basically frozen to the spot.  What the heck was I supposed to do??  I mean, if this happened now, I would most definitely be like “aw heck to the naw” and get up and move, but I was SIXTEEN!!!!!  No one had ever petted my hair before (I’m not a dog, nor have I ever volunteered to be part of a petting zoo) so I was basically petrified and pretended like this was normal and as soon as he stopped I ran far far away.  Ick.  I gotta say, this gives me a whole new respect for dogs, and I now ask their permission before I pet their fur.

The “I Promise I’m Not Peeing” Moment
I play guitar and sing.  And I sweat a lot.  Bonus, I sweat even MORE while I play guitar and sing.  Now please, don’t try to sell me on a new deodorant because the sweat DOESN’T JUST COME FROM MY ARMPITS people.  Not trying to be gross or graphic, just keeping it real.  I used to occasionally wear skirts while I played (don’t do that anymore, and you’ll see why) and I thought this would help with my overly sticky situation.  But instead, the opposite happened. One morning while playing in the dead heat of summer, I felt a large bead of sweat begin to form at the base of my…derriere.  You know, the lovely lady lumps back there.  And then, slowly, mid song, that bead of sweat began to travel, graceful and true, down the back of my leg.  I wondered…could anyone see this bead of sweat?  It felt large enough to see, that’s for sure.  And what would they think?  That I had to pee and I just couldn’t hold it in any longer?  This made me sweat more, which made the bead just move a little faster and more vengefully towards my ankle.  And then, it landed.  Thank the Lord.  I still don’t know if anyone ever saw this, and if they did, I hope they know that I am not incontinent, I just sweat like a trucker (and if you’re a trucker and aren’t sweaty, then I apologize for this reference).  I now wear pants when I play and sing.  End of story.

I may have embarrassing moments, but I usually don’t get embarrassed by my outfits.  Sure, this shirt looks a bit like chest hair, but I’m actually good with that.  I love “manrepeller style” and this outfit has a nice mix of 1970’s grandpa and luxury vintage to it.  If you don’t have a “chest hair” sweater or shirt, you should get one, because these kinds of clothes get you OUT of embarrassing moments.  No one notices if you drop stuff or trip or say weird things about bracelets…because they’re too distracted by your weird clothes.  I’m a closet genius (and my puns are #onpoint too) 😉

Katy

 

Fashion Feelings: Sometimes You Just Gotta Dream A Little

These days, seems like there’s just so much emphasis put on stuff that doesn’t really matter.  I hear people say often “I’m too old to start _____” or “to wear ______”.  I hear women talk about their shortcomings or what’s popular or not popular and these things often take such a heavy handed place in our lives.  But sometimes I think about it this way…if all that stuff was lifted off of us (which I know isn’t always real life, I get that, but dream with me for a minute here)…how would we feel?  Like…would you buy rollerblades and skate around town simply because you LOVE to rollerblade and it makes you happy, forgetting all about how rollerblading isn’t really “cool” anymore?  (Dang it I miss rollerblades…)  Or would you consider starting a business on the side or selling your art at a farmer’s market or heck, would you just wear more leopard print even if you feel “too old” for it?  No matter what is “realistic”,  I think it might be helpful for us to think like this more often than not.

To be quite honest when I am very realistic, this clothing line is not practical for me to be doing right now.  We could really use the money that’s going into it for…lots of things.  Cars, appliances, you name it.  It would be more “practical” for me to consider other things instead of investing in a dream.  However, I don’t believe that doing the practical thing is always the best choice.  Because all outside opinions, spreadsheets, and plans aside, sometimes it’s those “crazy whims that we shouldn’t be doing” that end up changing our lives and the lives of those of us around us.  We weren’t built for small mundane lives.  We were built for greatness.  We need to express ourselves artistically, think outside the box, and live life to it’s fullest potential to really really LIVE.  It’s not always easy.  Because sometimes what is practical is most comfortable for us mentally and emotionally.  It feels good to be rational sometimes.  But it’s not always good for us in all situations.

Obviously there are times when you absolutely have to do the practical thing.  There needs to be a balance between the dreams and the day to day grind.  But I find that often I feel like the majority of people are just keeping their heads down and not playing “let’s pretend I could do anything, what would it be?” as much as they should be.  Because sometimes it’s in those moments where a dream is born and you suddenly realize that maybe, just maybe, it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks and that this may be something that you should really go for.  Sometimes, that just means you should just wear what you want, regardless of…everything (except for your work dress code, because obviously that’s a different story!)

Dressing fun is just the best isn’t it?  This whole outfit is vintage, which makes it fun.  Some of it’s what you’d call #ontrend and some of it is just my own amalgamation of styles I love.  No matter what, I think the most important thing when it comes to how you dress, is that it feels like YOU.  Who cares if it goes with rollerblades or not?  (I so badly want rollerblades now, can you tell??)

Happy Wednesday
Katy

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Fashion Feelings: Tough and Tender

I like to pretend I’m tough.  I like to dress up in rocker tees, big jewelry, get tattoos, and load on the black eyeliner.  Because that makes me look and feel tough, and when the pedal really hits the medal, I am not really all that tough.  I can’t watch tv shows where people die.  Unless, of course, they are coming back as a vampire or werewolf.  Because that’s just cool.  I’ve never been good at confrontation.  In fact, when I’ve had to do those kinds of things in the past, I typically can’t breathe while I’m saying what has to be said and then I just dissolve into tears afterwards.  No, I would say when it comes to being tough or tender, I am firmly in the “tender” camp.

I volunteered at the thrift store that supports my kids’ school today, because first of all, that means I get to shop while doing it (bonus) and also I need to log in some hours to support their school.  I’m happy to do it.  I may have bought a few things in the process, we cannot be certain 😉  When I came in and put on my “Volunteer” name tag, the manager oriented me to the store (even though she knows I know the store pretty darn well!) and she said, “just don’t be rude to people”.  I laughed and told her that I wasn’t sure I knew how to be rude to people and she kind of cocked her head and looked at me…saying: “yeah…I can’t really imagine you being rude at all…”  She then went on to say that it was easy for her to be not so nice to people.  Have you noticed that people are usually one or the other?  Tough OR tender?  I’ve met a few people who are both, but they’re more rare than the either/or people.  Like me.

Whatever we are, we usually have to work on the opposite.  I have to work on being tough.  Constantly.  With my kids, with my business, heck, even when I order food and they get it wrong.  I am so NOT into confrontation that I would most definitely chose the path of least resistance when it comes to the potential for hurting people’s feelings.  But since that is no way to live and is obviously a super ineffective parenting method, I have to work on the opposite.  However, I have known lots of people who are like, ready to GO all the time.  You know, the ones who get excited when they hear that there might be a problem and they’re ready to defend anyone, anywhere, over anything.  They have to work on being tender.  It’s like…if they could see more from the other person’s perspective and if I could maybe pay attention to my OWN perspective for once…we could meet in the middle and be tough AND tender.  The sweet spot.

It’s hard and often painful to do things that are out of our nature.  I mean, the times I’ve had to confront people for work or something, I have waited until it was ABSOLUTELY necessary to do so.  I ran through what I had to do, I had people help me come up with what needed to be said.  And yet, in the moment, I felt like I was dragging my nails across a chalkboard or trying to breathe under water (actually kind of literally on that last one!).  I can imagine, for a person who finds confrontation quite easy, it might feel the same NOT jumping up and dealing with what’s bugging them, and instead listening and letting something go.  I’ve experienced this over and over again, and yet it always seems to apply no matter what’s going on in my life:  the path of least resistance is not always the best place to be.  I don’t go looking for confrontation or difficulty (I think we’ve established that already!) but I also don’t automatically assume that when things are hard or don’t feel natural, that I’m in the wrong place.  Because if that were the case, I would literally NEVER do anything new, ever.

I found these Blank NYC faux leather bells on Poshmark for a great deal, and I had to have them.  I mean, they’re like so Grease meets hippie vibes.  And I really loved the idea of wearing a kind of lumberjack vintage flannel with them.  Super tough!  One of the most special things about this outfit though, is my necklace.  It belonged to the most tough and tender woman I have ever known and I am beyond honored to own something of hers.  Myself and a lot of other people lost her recently and she reminds me still to love people relentlessly but to never back down, ever.  And now, I gotta figure out how to breathe under water… 🙂

Happy Wednesday…hope you’re being tough when you need to be and tender when it counts!
Katy

Fashion Feelings: Mad For Plaid

Plaid is one of those prints that will never, ever be “out”.  It would be like saying: “black is out…” because no one would ever say that.  It’s a neutral, a basic, and a classic all rolled into one.  And I think it’s universally flattering, and obviously offers a variety of different color options.  It’s great for fall and winter, and can be played with in the warmer seasons as well.  And who out there hates a great flannel I ask you?  Okay, probably someone does, but those people are rare.  Kind of like those random people who “don’t like chocolate.”  What is THAT all about?!

When I think of plaid, my mind immediately goes here

Or here

Because no matter how long plaid has been around, it’s hard to separate it from the 90’s.  That’s when plaid wasn’t just “in”, it was IN.  Flannels became a form of outerwear instead of just a shirt you wore.  School girl uniforms became sexy thanks to Britney and Cher (from Clueless, I’m clearly not discussing Cher in real life).  It seems like plaid was everywhere in the 90’s.  I think maybe because I was becoming more aware of fashion during this time period, I have a very strong association with these moments in plaid…because they are what really introduced me to plaid as a fashion choice rather than something you just wore.

Now, during the 90’s, I most certainly did NOT dress cool.  I didn’t actually watch Clueless until after the 90’s were over and I never got to watch more than half an episode of My So Called Life.  My style choices during that time were dictated by an incredibly strict dress code on top of an incredibly strict couple of parents.  So, when it came to being in style, none of what you see above was what I was wearing.  I didn’t really experiment with wearing flannels until I was well out of college.  And one day, I put on a flannel over a striped dress and it was magic.  This was the first time I had EVER mixed patterns, and you know what?  I LOVED IT.  I remember trying the dress on with the flannel…feeling almost like I was doing it on a dare.  I was like “what if…I put THIS with THIS?  That would be SO CRAZY!”  I laugh about it now considering the weird things I put together, but at the time, it was a bold move.  And it WORKED!

I found this flannel plaid dress in the nightgown section of the thrift store (what on earth was it doing THERE?) and I love it because it’s just so holiday feeling.  It’s got such a full skirt and it’s so classy.  Plaid is one of those patterns, like leopard print, that I love in all pieces.  I love plaid tops and plaid bottoms, plaid dresses and plaid coats.  It works any way you slice it.

I have a sudden urge to dress like a Catholic schoolgirl.  Wonder where that came from…(thanks Britney).

Katy

Advice in Style: How To Rock Grandpa Chic

Your grandma and grandpa are like, totally on point right now.  I have a friend who consistently points out that the robe/pants/shoes I’m wearing are exactly what her grandfather wears.  Yes, old people are trés CHIC right now!  I see it everywhere whether it’s on the runways or on Instagram…everyone is rocking the grandpa chic look.  And I love it.

One of the things that makes this easy for me is that I don’t have much of a relationship with my grandparents.  Trust me, this makes me sad.  I wish I could participate in a program where grandparents adopt me and tell me stories and talk to me…this sounds like a dream to me!  None of my grandparents have been very present in my life and while they have a granddaughter who would absolutely ADORE to listen to all their stories, they sure aren’t telling them to me. The lack of relationship with them however has caused me to not have clothing associations with them…know what I mean?  Like, if your grandpa ACTUALLY used to wear something, you may have a difficult time seeing it as stylish and instead only be able to picture your grandparent puttering around in it.  Sure, some of us have super stylish grandparents, but most of us don’t really try to mimic how they dressed or currently dress at any point in time.

My association with my grandparents’ style are….whiskey (my grandpa’s cologne),  bad polyester (the thick stiff scratchy kind), and 80’s sweaters that have a lot of random colors and “things” sewn on them.  That’s about all I can come up with when it comes to my associations.  Lucky for me (besides the obvious “missing out on the relationship” downside), I get to experience grandparent couture in my own brand new way!

If this is a style you’re scared of, or just need inspiration to try, I’m going to show you two ways to wear a pair of grandpa chic pants.

Full-On Grandpa Chic


This whole outfit for the most part is thrifted.  Grandpa pants, sweater vest and shoes, and grandma hat and blouse.  One of the best parts about grandparent chic is that it’s EASILY found at thrift stores CHEAP.  This is a great way to fully wear a runway style for under $20.  Loafers are a MUST.

Grandpa Chic “Light”

Okay, so you love the style, but you want/need to dress a little less like you fought in Vietnam.  I get it, that’s okay, you can still pull this off.  Take those grandpa chic pants you got, add a pair of booties or lace up biker boots and a graphic tee.  Maybe some jewelry…and you’ve got “bad grandpa” chic.  You know what I mean not bad, BAD.  I haven’t seen Bad Grandpa, but that’s what I think of when I say this.

So go grab yourselves some plaid pants, and get complaining about how things were better in “the good old days”.  Grandparents are cool, and that’s okay with me 🙂
Katy

Advice in Style: The Lazy Girl’s Guide To Style

You know what’s funny?  Watching movies set in past times when women wore things like corsets and stuff…and then watching myself complain about having to button my jeans.  Yeah.  Times have changed.  I mean, we have it so easy!  We don’t have to deal with giant petticoats (unless we want to) or constrictive shape wear (unless you count spanx, which are again, optional)…the worst thing we have to do is literally, button our skinny jeans.  Pretty sure we have it darn easy, ladies!

All that to be said, we don’t have to make things more complicated if we don’t want to.  If you’re one of those “I want to feel like I’m wearing pajamas all day, every day” kinda gals, this is your lucky day.  Because corsets are for costumes, buttons are for elevators, spanx are for Kanye’s fashion show.   Yeah, I went there.

Lazy gals, your day has arrived.  We live in the era of stretch fabrics, velcro, and leggings in every imaginable pattern.  You are now the cool girls.  Your workouts can now be reserved for the gym and not for trying to get on a stubborn pair of slightly too small “standing only” jeans.

The I Don’t Want To Button My Pants Lazy Girl’s Guide To Style:

Ditch the jeans like it’s Turkey Day.  I love denim, but you can be stylish without a pair of jeans.  The sheer amount of palazzo pants, maxi skirts, leggings, and stretchy bell bottoms out there right now is staggering.  I have so many pairs of jeans, and I often go weeks without touching them just because I have so many other options.
Keep the jeans, lose the pesky button.  I am having an endless love affair with high waisted stretch jeans.  So much so, that I’m considering doing my own for my upcoming clothing line.  I have a pair of these, and you guys, they’re worth every penny.
Wear pajamas.  All day.  You all know how I feel about pajama dressing, it’s chic, different, and COMFORTABLE.  No one (unless they’re super weird) makes uncomfortable pajamas.  You can easily buy pajama tops and bottoms even at places like Target or Old Navy and wear them as shirts and or bottoms.  It looks very classy when paired with the right top or bottom, depending on what look you are going for.
Layer like a pro.  I love that the style these days is more “messy” than “fussy”.  It’s like, instead of polo shirts with the collar flipped up (please tell me what that’s about you guys) there’s tees with jackets and flowy pants.  Messy is the “look”, meaning that it’s all about doing things imperfectly and not nitpicking at your outfit.  (key word, lazy)
No more laces.  Don’t tell your mom, but all that time she spent teaching you to tie your own shoes was, well, a waste.  Because pull on, slip on, slide on shoes are your new BFF.  I cannot tell you how many times I chose a pair of pull-on boots over a pair that I have to zip up (heaven forbid I put that much effort into getting dressed) simply because it was easy.  Mules, slides, and cowboy boots are like “look ma! No hands!” kinda shoes.
Buy yourself a good dry shampoo.  If you don’t already have dry shampoo, goodness gracious get your butt into your car and get some.  Or at the very least, be lazy and order some.  No, NOW.  I didn’t mean later, I meant now!  Because dry shampoo is the lazy girl’s best hair friend, and saves time, and probably lives as well for all I know.  If you have dark hair, this one is the bomb and smells amazing too.  If you have blonde hair, opt for a lighter option.  Both of these are safe, natural products that you will most definitely get your money’s worth.  An added perk of using the natural ones is that they don’t build up like the chemical ones do.  These you can use a few days in a row without getting that nasty yucky hair feeling after only one day of use.

Here’s my lazy girl look.  I have a robe I got from Urban Outfitters, my pull on flares from Show Me Your Mumu (no cussing, struggling, or sucking in the gut required), and a thrifted slip dress.  My hair is fully equipped with dry shampoo and a little salt spray and my lipstick is a crayon (one swipe and done).  I have on some slide on mules so I can literally just step into them and go.

Go be lazy you guys.  It’s ok, I won’t tell 🙂
Katy

Advice in Style: Mashups

Anyone else out there used to watch Glee?  Then you know what a great mashup is.  You take two things that are amazing and you put them together.  Two different things that seem like they may have nothing in common, and you combine them…often learning that there is more common ground between the two things than you think.  Style mashups happen ALL the time, but no one ever calls them that!  So I’m just slapping a Glee-friendly label on them and showing you a few.

1970’s meets western:

Preppy meets vintage rocker:

Asian inspired gown meets bicker chick:

Rockabilly chills with rock and roll:

You catch my drift?  So what makes for a great mashup?  In music it’s things like similar chording, a common theme between the lyrics, and the possibility for a compatible tempo.  But what about in style?  How do you make sure that the two worlds will live happily ever after instead of fighting for the center stage?

Here’s some helpful ideas for you.  None of them are RULES…because there’s LOTS of ways to make a great mashup!
1. Pick one dominant theme.  One way to do this is to pick one or two pieces that you want to be the focus.  Then fill in the blanks in between with simple things.  Like, choose crazy 1980’s sneakers and a preppy tweed blazer…and fill in the gaps with a white shirt and jeans.  That way your mashup has some neutral territory.
2. Separate the mashup with some space.  If you’re freaked by this idea, shoes and something on your top half (like a top or a jacket) is the easiest way to give it a go.  That way, there’s a little bit of territory between the two things you’re mixing.
3. Choose styles that “go with everything”.  Obviously, not everything, well, goes with everything, but let me explain.  Cowboy boots tend to be one of those things that are an easy style mix up piece.  They go with fancy edwardian dresses for some epic style confusion.  They work with a rocker tee and goth leather mini skirt.  They are usually a sure fire, go-to, mashup piece when you’re looking to add something.  Converse are also another great piece.  Plaid/tweed blazers, seventies scarves, and 1950’s brooches usually mix in well with other fashion statements too!
4. Just give it a try.  There are many times when you may think to yourself: “this is going to look terrible together!”  But then you try it on all together…and voila!  Magic happens!

I’m all about style mashups.  Partly because I can never make up my mind about what style I’m into at the moment.  Partly because I love to get creative and see what happens when fashions collide.  Partly because…it’s way fun!!!

I got this (most likely a costume) vintage dress at a thrift store and I decided to wear it open like a robe because it has the most amazing drape to it…and the sleeves!! OMG!  I was trying to figure out what to wear it with, and these over the knee western fringe boots just would NOT get out of my mind.  I really just loved the idea of these two major pieces hanging out together.  It just somehow…seems like they belong together!  I also added one of my favorite fringe pieces from my amazing friend Jessica (Hillbillygypsy Boots) to tie in with the fringe on the boots.

Go forth and mash it up!  Have some fun!  This is where you get to break all the rules 🙂
Katy

Real World Style: Fall Couture

I love nothing more than to be flipping through the glossy pages of a magazine and spot an outfit that makes me think: “hey!  I could do that!”  I love when I see a photo that encourages me to put things together in a brand new way.  This is the ultimate way to “shop your closet” or to help you come up with a list of a few pieces to add to your wardrobe for the new season.  When I saw this look in the most recent Vogue, I instantly knew I wanted to give it a shot in the real world.

Dang it.  Now I want a soft pretzel.  Back to the outfit.  I love blazers.  I think they are one of the most key pieces, like a great pair of jeans, that can just completely make an outfit.  They just add something structured to your look and can take anything, even a plain tank top and jeans and sandals and make it look like a legit outfit.  This look, though, made me think about the whole “blazer/skirt” combo.  This is not new, it’s not rocket science, but it just feels very now and fresh to me.  This is what I did with it:

I have a plaid blazer, but because mine is navy and dark green, when I tried to pair it with the red skirt it looked way too Christmas-y.  I liked how the stripes paired with the skirt…kind of had this thing where the lines on the blazer continued on down in the skirt.  It feels so “fall” and so  put together to me.  All I need is that stupid soft pretzel now…

If you don’t have a blazer, definitely add one to your wardrobe.  Here’s a great option for one under $50 at H&M.  I think this look works best with an unstructured skirt better than a pencil skirt for example, because the blazer/pencil skirt pairing is definitely an “I just came from the office” look whereas this is a more creative use of this typical workwear piece.  I would do it with a flowy maxi, a pleated midi, or even a destroyed denim piece to be creative with it!  I love the juxtaposition of the tweed-y blazer with a romantic or rock and roll skirt!

Hope you’re having a great day (and eating a soft pretzel)!
Katy

Fashion Feeling: Nothing To Wear

Do you ever just put something on, and feel AMAZING?  And then, naturally, you immediately forget the outfit and the next day whine that you have “nothing to wear”?  This is my daily routine.  I have about seven years worth of amazing outfits hanging in my closet that I add to almost daily…and yet…I can never figure out what to wear.  The struggle is real, people.

Sometimes what I remember and what I forget baffles me.  Why is it that I can remember a hundred negative things over the course of the past few years and yet I can’t remember that one amazing thing that happened yesterday?  Dang it.  I hate that it’s easier to remember the bad stuff.  I’m generally a positive, happy person.  And yet, my brain can cling to the bad stuff the same as any other human out there.

It’s very easy for me to focus on the things that make me unhappy.  The things I want.  The things that I haven’t achieved yet.  So instead, I thought I’d make a list of the things that make me happy.  The things that I love, that bring joy to my life and a smile to my face.  Maybe you can do the same!  Things I love: (these are a few of my favorite things!)
1. Starbucks cold brew (if you see me on Instagram, you know this already!)
2. Putting pumpkin spice in my coffee in the mornings (not all of these are about coffee, I promise)
3. Really nailing my outfit
4. Getting the house clean and sitting down in the evening to watch a tv show with my husband
5. New episodes of my favorite shows (I love my tv, guys)
6. Grocery shopping with coffee and getting everything I need on the list (coffee again, sorry!)
7. Finding a GREAT find at the thrift store or at any store really.  Just finding something that I’ve been looking for or that makes me feel fabulous.
8. My kids singing songs (all originals of course) and reading me their books.  Their interpretations of things are hilarious and FAR better than the originals!
9. Fall.  I LOVE FALL.
10. Listening to Coldplay.  I never, ever get tired of anything they do.

There are a LOT of other things that are even more dear to my heart than these things.  But sometimes, I think in times when you’re struggling, it’s helpful to find those small things that bring you joy in your everyday life.  Those are the mundane things amongst the struggles and the exhaustion of life that really are like the “frosting” on your days!

This outfit combines two things I love.  A fabulous outfit (I feel the greatest in something funky and unexpected) and a super great find.  I visited a local thrift store I frequent as often as possible and I picked up this vintage boyscout tee for $4.99!  It was definitely one of those fabulous finds for me!  I decided that layering and mixing this tee with a slightly quirky outfit was the best way to make sure no one thinks I’m actually trying to look like a scout, so ruffles and plaid it is!  I love the combination of the plaid pencil skirt and the floral ruffles, all tied together with this pair of basic riding boots.  Everyone needs at least one pair of regular, good old, riding boots in their closet.  Because you never know when the rest of your outfit will be SO CRAZY you’ll just need a normal pair of shoes right?  (I can hear you laughing at me!)

No matter what’s going on, hope you can find those little things that make you happy amidst everyday life.  And that you have a fabulous outfit on at the very least 🙂
Katy

 

 

Fashion Feeling: Perspective Changes Things

You know how often times people say: “Perspective is everything”? or something to that effect?  It’s a common piece of advice that’s given out freely, usually when someone is struggling with an area of their lives.  I was thinking about this recently while listening to someone talk about a struggle they were dealing with in their current situation.  Perspective is an interesting thing isn’t it?  When you think about it, you could put two people in the same situation, and they can come out describing that situation completely differently.  In that way, perspective is everything.  However, I sometimes get the feeling that when I’m being told this piece of advice, it means that I shouldn’t be looking forward or striving for greater things.  Let me explain.

I’d like to propose a change to this quote.  I would like to say: “perspective CHANGES everything.”  That one little word, to me, is everything!  I completely believe that having the correct perspective is incredibly important, and quite honestly, can be everything in determining your future.  But I don’t think we should just change our perspective on our situation, then sit still.  Say you hate your job.  It’s not what you were made for, it drains the life out of you, and it’s basically something you do just to survive.  Those are valid feelings, and nowhere in the world should anyone say: “you should just learn to love it and stick with it forever!” because that’s not always the truth!  However, you could flip it around and say: “I’m so grateful that I can make a living right now, while I pursue what other things/jobs I can do that bring me more fulfillment than this job right now.”  I think if we can use our perspective to help propel us forward, we can do a lot of amazing things.  So I guess what I’m saying, is that I agree with the statement: “perspective is everything” AS LONG AS we don’t use it to basically tell ourselves that we are stuck and we may as well make the best of it.  Which, sure, there are seasons in life that are very much like that.  I understand.  I’ve been there.  But the good news is, seasons don’t last forever, we can ALWAYS learn new skills, and the better perspective we have on where we are and where we can go next, the more likely we are to go places!  Perspective on where we are, WHO we are, and what we are capable of CHANGES EVERYTHING.

I’ve had this shirt from Anthropologie for years now.  I love it, but I never wear it anymore.  I bought it right after having my second baby and it was literally the magic shirt that made me look thinner when I was most definitely NOT.  It’s one of those shirts that I would have bought no matter what, but because I wore it when I wasn’t feeling all that thin, I have a hard time wearing it now that I’ve lost more weight.  If you’ve ever gone through dramatic weight loss or had a baby you know those pieces I’m talking about!  So the other day, I was looking at the shirt and thought, what if I looked at it differently.  What if I wore it BACKWARDS?  And voila.  My perspective changed!

The bralette is the magic piece for backless tops because it adds a little pizazz!  Mine is Free People.  This top is old, but here’s a similar one if you want to try this out!  The jeans are vintage Levi’s and the shoes are vintage loafers (if you don’t have loafers, get some!!)  My necklace is from the fabulous Free To Wander on Etsy.

I wish changing my perspective on life was as easy as putting my shirt on differently.  But we all gotta start somewhere and just do our best!
Katy