Fashion Feeling: What I “Need”

Have you ever noticed how many times a day we say: “I need ____”?  I find myself saying it all the time.  Constantly.  And then sometimes, I wonder, do I really need what I just said I did?  I’m not always sure I do.  I’m not talking about like, a new pair of shoes, or a fur bomber jacket.  We ALWAYS NEED those things (can I get an “amen” from all you fashionistas out there?)!  That’s not the direction I’m going with this.  No, on the contrary, what I mean is this: I often think I need things to be a certain way before I can go on and do other, new things.  Like, I want all my ducks in a row before I start something new.  (If I had ducks, they would be in a row.  It’s how ducks are supposed to be.)  This is the problem of the non-procrastinating personality.  I was the kid who finished her homework before getting home because I wanted to go have fun, and there was no “fun” for me if my homework wasn’t done.  I like to work first, play after.  It makes my brain feel better.

While that is a good quality to have, it’s not always, shall we say…realistic, when it comes to real life.  It’s all well and good when you’re in school or have a job where you are able to check things off a list and keep everything in a nice spreadsheet.  But in my experience, life is much messier than this.  There’s things that don’t fit into categories, the lines all blur together, and there’s no finishing all the things you need to do…like…ever.

I found myself recently hearing about someone who had basically everything they needed in life.  Like everything.  There was security, there was money, there was space both physically and mentally to be organized.  And I found myself feeling a little…angry about it.  I started thinking things like: “yeah!  That’s what I need.  I shouldn’t be starting a clothing line or trying to work like I am without the space or resources!”  I felt a wave of righteous outrage flow over me.  And I felt completely justified in feeling this way.  I mean, logically, shouldn’t you have everything you need BEFORE you start something new?  The answer to that is as plain and simple as the nose on your face.  No.

Here’s why my “righteous anger” is completely unfounded.  Because when I have the time, the space, and no need to move forward, I will not.  There is something about a small amount of messiness, a need for forward motion in life, and some “lack” I will call it…that can cause incredible creativity.  Diamonds are not made in a cabana on the beach.  They are made in the fire.  Most people in history who did incredible things were not sitting there in mansions surrounded by everything they needed.  No, they actually did not have what they needed, which is what gave them the drive to move forward.  Now I know, it’s not like a recipe for creativity or an equation that says “need causes creating”.  It’s more of an observation really on myself, and on the human race.

So yeah.  I need certain things.  The need is real.  But that “need” shouldn’t be something that I focus on.  When we are in that fire, in that place of discomfort, we have got to focus on what’s in our hearts.  That thing that drives us.  Because often the most beautiful art comes out of discomfort, disappointment, and, well, need.  I got over my indignation when I realized that I only started writing as much as I am, when I ceased having the free time to do so.  Do you see what I mean?  When I had the time, I didn’t use it.  The need has created the desire.

Don’t worry.  I will never every tell you that you don’t need an article of clothing. I’m literally the worst person to ask when you want to make a decision because my default it that if you’re asking, you probably need it!  And no matter if you are in a place of comfort, discomfort, need, or plenty, don’t let yourself forget about what lights your fire.  No matter what space you are in, you can create.  You can build something.  You can move forward.  And if you don’t feel the need to move forward in your own life, you can do it for someone else!  We all have gifts, passions, and abilities that we need to share and use.  Otherwise, the rest of us miss out on what YOU have to offer!

I almost didn’t get this Free People dress.  (I got it second hand). And then, I realized, I needed it.  In the good way :)  The pink vintage concho necklace is from Classic Rock Couture (love her shop!) and the vintage huaraches I thrifted from Goodwill.  All the rest of the jewelry I picked up second hand.

Hope you’re feeling the passion today.  Even if it’s just in your brain while you shuttle your kids around back and forth to school…that’s a perfectly good place to create!
Katy

 

 

On Necklace Layering

Necklace layering.  It’s something that I often do, but rarely think about.  I’ve had a number of people ask me how to do it, and then I have to stop and think about it.  The answer is simple really, you just put on necklaces, and then after a while, you stop putting them on!  Okay, for reals that’s what I do.  However, I do understand that there is an instinct that I have developed over time, and that takes practice.  And you have to start somewhere, and with some level of inspiration.  So I’m going to try and break it down into some basic ideas, with some tips and tricks for you…that way if you’re feeling like you don’t know where to start or you don’t feel like you’ve got your instincts on this yet, you’ll have a place to begin!  Keep in mind, there really are no RULES to this.  There’s no rules other than if you like it or not.  If you like silver, use silver.  If you like gold, use gold.  If you like both, mix them!  The sky is the limit, and anything goes!

To get started, start collecting jewelry!!  This doesn’t have to be an expensive process.  I really don’t own many expensive pieces yet, and that’s ok.  Etsy is a fabulous source for handmade jewelry, and a lot of it is quite inexpensive.  Forever 21, Target, and even places like Kohl’s have very much stepped up their jewelry game and they have many great pieces to mix and match.  And don’t forget about thrift stores, flea markets, and second hand stores!  That’s where you’ll really score and get stuff that no one has ever seen before!!  I have been collecting jewelry for a while now, so it’s quite easy to layer…and once you start your collection and it grows a bit, you’ll see that it gets easier.  The more options you have…well, the more options you’ll have :)

ROCKER CHIC
This look is FUN and basically my GO TO right now.  It’s got leather and gold (I’m a gold person, so keep that in mind…silver will work or rose gold too if that’s your metal of choice!) and lots going on.  I like lots going on!
THE PIECES: This is a leather wrap choker with a tassel pendant attached to it (details on that to follow), a layered multi chain necklace, and two vintage gold choker length necklaces.
TIP: The BEST way to make this look easy peasy, is to find one necklace that has a ton of chains on it.  These are pretty easy to find cheap typically at places like F21 or the thrift stores. You can also make one if you’re so inclined by going to the craft stores and getting a bunch of chain and attaching it into one multi length necklace.  Varying the chain colors and link size will make it look even cooler.
TRICK:  Okay you guys.  This leather choker.  It’s a PIECE OF LEATHER I bought at a craft store (leather laces, deerskin is the best if you can find it) and I bought a chain pendant at Michael’s to hang on to it.  It cost me under $10 and I now have a bunch of colors.  It’s so easy, it’s almost wrong.

TINY TREASURES
This look is basically a more delicate layering option.  If you keep the metal monochromatic and the pendants even smaller than these, it will be more delicate and more of a conservative layering look.
THE PIECES: I have a handmade necklace from The Joyful Jewelry Box (love her!), a turquoise cross from Forever 21, and a thrifted agate slice.
TIP: This is an easy look.  The thing you want to do is to keep all the necklaces at very similar lengths…just slightly staggered is best.  Like within half an inch to an inch of each other is best.
TRICK: You can easily make this look by buying chain and small pendants at the craft store and making each necklace just slightly longer than the last.

TALKING BOUT TURQUOISE

Chokers are the total new IT necklace.  They are also a GREAT layering piece because they don’t interfere with your other jewelry…there’s no tangling or competing for the same length typically.  This look can be monochromatic like I did it, or can be totally changed up by using different colors.
THE PIECES: This is a deerskin braided concho leather choker by Desert Mermaid, a multi strand turquoise thrifted necklace, and a tassel necklace from Anthropologie.
TIP: The principle behind this look is three distinct lengths.  ONE: a choker, TWO: a collar bone piece, and THREE: a midriff hitting pendant.  Pretty much ANYTHING can be used in this look, even a short necklace instead of a choker if you’re not a choker person.
TRICK:  A piece of ribbon tied around your neck is a perfect layering choker.  It’s cheap and easy and you can literally own every color of the rainbow for super cheap.

PRETTY PREPPY

Surprise!  You thought this was about NECKLACE layering didn’t you!?  Gotcha!  I mixed in a brooch because remember?  There are NO RULES!
THE PIECES:  This is a tiny collarbone star necklace (the one I wore at my wedding in fact!), a vintage brooch, and a long gold necklace from Anthropologie.
TIP:  This is a great way to layer that won’t get tangled up together!  You can also put a brooch off to the side, or even wear a few in a row across the neckline of your shirt to add more interest.
TRICK: If you love brooches but don’t have any, they can easily be thrifted or made by taking clip on earrings or anything really and gluing it onto a pin.

BANDANA WHAT?
The wild west ain’t got nothing on this look!  Bolos can be a bit harder to layer because of their long tails.  That’s why layering them under a scarf works beautifully.
THE PIECES:  A thrifted scarf and a bolo made by my lovely Hillbillygypsy Boots.
TIP:  Any scarf will do for this look!  You could use a vintage one or any type really…it will still be a great layering piece over a bolo or a long necklace.
TRICK:  You could find a fabric that you like and cut a square in a scarf size and that’s an easy and cheap way to get any look you want with the pattern you want.

URBAN COWGIRL

Again with the scarf!  Flip it around, add a brooch, and you’ve got a whole new groove.  Basically this look is about three different lengths.  It’s an easy one!
THE PIECES: Thrifted scarf, a vintage brooch, a thrifted coin necklace, and a long necklace from Anthropologie.
TIP: With a floral scarf and a pretty sparkly brooch, you get a whole different look to this layered vibe.
TRICK: If you don’t have a brooch, you could easily just tie your scarf in a knot, or tie a longer one in a bow, and then add a few necklaces below it and it’s still super cute!

Now…just do it!  Mix some metals, try some tricks…get crazy and bold with this!  Jewelry is an easy and more conservative way (for those of you who have to dress a bit more conservatively for work OR you just aren’t into bold clothing) to add flair and pizazz to an outfit.  I mean, a white tee and jeans could look so put together with some layered jewelry!

If you wanted to buy pieces like the ones I used, I’ll add some links here for you to get started on your hunt!

SCARF, LONG GOLD NECKLACE, LEATHER CHOKER, ASSORTED CHOKERS, SMALL AND MEDIUM NECKLACES FOR LAYERING, BROOCH

Hope your week is just jammin’

Katy

On New Chances and A Thrifted Top

Gosh I love when the tables turn in the right direction.  For a few years there, I really struggled to find the good in stuff around me.  I mean, I knew it was there. I had a lot to be thankful for no doubt.  But honestly, the thoughts that ran through my head were more negative than positive and I had to struggle pretty hard against the negative thoughts most days.  Even when things started to get better and life became more stable, it was still hard.  It takes a long time to conquer loss.  To realize that there is life after the life you had planned fell apart.  To remember that your dreams do matter and that maybe, just maybe, you have some usefulness left in you.  Slowly but surely, I have noticed that the tables have turned in my thoughts.  Sure, I still have lots of things that bum me out.  I have days where I wrestle with old feelings and thoughts.  I have things that discourage me and I feel like maybe I should just give up.  But those days and those thoughts are getting less and less, and I’m finding that my thoughts are often more happy than negative.  Ahhhhh I love this.  I feel like I’ve been waiting a long time for this.

Just yesterday I was at church talking to people (because this is where a lot of my social life happens!) and I had this sudden realization.  I LOVE the people around me.  Don’t get me wrong.  I have ALWAYS LOVED the people around me.  Deeply and completely.  But yesterday, talking to someone who is so different from me, someone who loves to go to flea markets…but he goes for Lord of The Rings stuff, swords, and Star Wars action figures…I just felt so happy.  There are so many people around me at this point in my life who are so different.  In every single way.  They’re different ages, backgrounds, interests, and personalities.  But honestly, they’re SO FUN.  I just had this amazing feeling that has become more and more common lately, where I just felt so loved.  So supported.  So encouraged.  This happens more than just at church for me lately.

Instagram has been a mixed bag for me quite honestly.  I know I’ve talked about social medial before, so I won’t go down that road again.  But I have met the BEST people on there.  I talk to some of those girls (one in particular, she knows who she is! :) ) more than I do people I’ve actually met!  And all of those women, ALL OF THEM, have been endlessly encouraging to me.  I don’t think they know that they have brought me to tears with their words of encouragement.  I don’t think they know how low I have been.  How worthless I have felt.  And how “done” I thought I was.  I guess this is my love letter to all of you, my Instagram friends and also to my church, because without you guys, I’d be lost.

Rebeca Zulch, one of the COOLEST girls on Instagram, chose to put me on her website.  Honestly, I feel so flattered to be included on the site of someone who OWNS GUCCI LOAFERS you guys…her shoe closet is like magical unicorns built it out of rainbows and happy thoughts.  She’s beautiful and uplifting, and I got included with so many amazing women including Elise of caturdaystyle.com (another favorite of mine!).  Check out the link to Rebeca’s site HERE.  Gosh.  This is what I mean.  I get that feeling again, that warm feeling that spreads throughout the whole of my being of being loved and supported.  And even though I cheese grated my thumb this morning, everyone’s been in a super crazy mood today, and I’m sweating from every part of my body…I’m so thankful.

I chose this outfit for today because this top was one that almost got passed over at the Goodwill last time I went.  It had the potential to be super ugly, but I gave it a shot, and I fell in love with it.  I realized that it had new life in it.  Sans shoulder pads and with some ripped up old Levis and platforms, it had a chance to be something other than ghetto 80’s fashion.  I can relate.  There have been many days when I thought that if someone would just give me another chance, maybe this time I’d succeed.  Thankfully, life is full of many chances and we get to try and try again.  Just like this shirt!

When you feel low, remember.  You’ll get another chance, another day, and it’s not done.  YOU are not done yet.  In the words of one of the wisest fictional characters, Anne of Green Gables: “tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it.”

Own it.
Katy

On Basics…And Maxi DRESSES

Wednesday is upon us, so it’s once again time to think about how to swap, switch, and snazz up a basic!  “Basics…Anything But” today is all about a maxi dress!  To begin with, let’s have a little heart to heart about maxi dresses, shall we?  I remember watching an episode of The Rachel Zoe Project years ago when she was meeting with buyers for some major department stores to find out what pieces from her line they were going to purchase.  To her shock and horror (being a MAJOR maxi dress lover), NO ONE was ordering the maxis.  Actually, they were ordering everything BUT the maxi dresses.  She asked them why on earth this was the case, and they gave her their honest answer: because they just aren’t big sellers.  Because a lot of women are afraid of the maxi or they just don’t know how to wear it.  This really got me thinking.  I’ve always loved maxi skirts and dresses…I’ve worn them my whole life, and I haven’t really thought twice about it.  But now after spending some time in a clothing store, I’ve realized that this is actually fairly true.  I wouldn’t say that MOST women don’t wear them, but I would say that A LOT of women are not drawn to this length.  The skirts that sell out are the shorter lengths by FAR.  This is the funny thing…maxi dresses and skirts, if they are the correct fit, are actually quite flattering, comfortable, and versatile.  So regardless if you’re a long dress lover or not, let’s try and have some fun with one!

THE DRESS:  Okay so fit is really important on a maxi, just as it is in most dresses.  Floor length dresses tend to be a LOT of fabric (I think this is one of the things that can scare women away to be quite honest) so if this is an issue for you, stay away from a higher waist empire style for SURE.  If the waistline starts just under your boobs, that’s going to be a much longer, fuller skirt than if it starts lower down on your waist, or closer to it.  If you happen to love the empire waist, then go for it!  But if not, you may feel a bit overwhelmed by the sheer amount of skirt that is happening!  In order to pull off these swaps and switches successfully, the best style of dress will be a strappy (or strapless) simple maxi that’s a bit more fitted at the top and fuller at the bottom.  The dress I chose is from Free People and it’s got quite a full skirt on it.  (I gotta say, I bought it because Sasha of @snafierce wore it and DANG she rocks it, check out her post!)  You can EASILY do this exact same styling with a simpler dress if you don’t want the huge ruffles!  HERE is a super cute option that’s got some pattern variation and is nice and relaxed and HERE is a super simple budget friendly option (I know it’s called “empire waist” but it’s not full skirted, so it’s much more slimming than the average!)

Let’s start styling!  The beauty of this switch up is that if you have summer events or weddings to attend, you could potentially buy one dress and re wear it multiple ways (including to an everyday non formal function) without wearing the exact same outfit!  Apparently that’s all the rage now (I read about it in the Wall Street Journal this week so I know it’s true!).

HI! I’M SERENA VANDERWOODSEN (IN MY DREAMS)
Something about this dress reminds me of Gossip Girl!  It’s got a Grecian feel but it’s not quite as fancy as that dress Serena wore in the Hamptons!

I paired this dress with some gladiator sandals (HERE is a great pair for $54!) and some bohemian beachy macrame jewelry to give it a dressed down but still classy feel.  This is a great look for a beach wedding or party!
THRIFTY TIP: This look is VERY similar to the look I put together a few posts ago when I did one about maxi skirts!  So if you don’t have a good long dress or can’t seem to find one, find two long skirts and layer them just like I did on that post!
CRAFTY DIY: If you know how to make macrame plant holders and the like, make yourself a great necklace!  Otherwise, you can totally buy shells at the craft store and hang them on a chain to make your own necklace and it will look super boho beach ready!
SWAP IT OUT: Fringe sandals, or a basic scrappy sandal will also be very beachy keen with this look.  You could also use beaded necklaces instead of shells to add color and change the vibe of the outfit.

DO YOU CROCHET?
Here’s an easy way to change the look of your dress without layering on too much in the hot weather!  It adds a little coverage also if you’re looking to cover your arms or shoulders.


This look is still beachy but it’s a little classier.  It’s a very monochromatic look with this dress, but you could TOTALLY change that by using a different dress or shoes or top!  The crochet top needs to be short typically so that it hits at the right spot and leaves you a bit of a waist with the maxi dress.  HERE is one option, but it will depend on the top of your dress what style works best with it!  HERE is a few color options on the wedges for you (the ticket is that stretchy top because it’s SO comfortable!).
THRIFTY TIP: HERE is a fabulous (and nice retro reproduction too!) steal of an option for a crochet top that comes in black and white to give you a choice of colors!  And while you’re at it, HERE is a great cheap gold collar to give you a pop of metallic for this look!
CRAFTY DIY: Another way to make this look super cool and a little bit tough, is to thrift a bunch of gold chains (or make some at the craft store!) and layer a bunch of them.  That way you have an instant gold collar necklace!
SWAP IT OUT: Swap the cream crochet for black and use silver jewelry and black wedges.  It’ll be more of a nighttime look, a little bit tougher, and less beach ready.

I JUST LOOK LIKE I RIDE
A great way to make almost ANYTHING look more casual and daytime?  A graphic tee.  They layer over or under most anything and everything and they really relax the whole vibe of the outfit!  My answer to most everything is (yes a kimono, but in this outfit that doesn’t apply!) is a graphic tee and cowboy boots.  You can pretty much go anywhere with a casual dress code in those two things.
In this case, I used a tee from Bandit Brand, which is a GREAT place to get graphic tees if you want to splurge and grab something that really does look vintage.  (HERE is my exact shirt).  You could totally grab one of the same prints in many different styles (I just happen to love the muscle tee but sleeves totally work too!) and even some in different colors.  Also, Midnight Rider is another go-to for vintage reproduction tees!
THRIFTY TIP:  So when I started hunting at thrift shops for graphic tees, I realized why they are typically so expensive when you find them online or at a vintage shop.  The good ones are pretty darn hard to find.  But do look when you’re thrifting, just focus on the MEN’S SECTION because that’s where the good ones, if they exist, will be.  The great news is that places like Target have been ROCKING the vintage shirt game and even Forever 21 is getting up to speed too.  Check out THIS ONE and THIS ONE because I know it can be kind of shocking, but I never expect to pay less than around $50 for a good graphic tee and these ones totally fit the bill and come in way under that price!
CRAFTY DIY: I know I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again.  A borderline lame or not so hot tee from the thrift store can be saved by stretching the heck out of it, cutting the hems open, and ripping a few holes in it.  Heck I even got one that was basically ugly and I cut a v out of the front and grommeted and laced it up.  Totally changed the shirt into one of my favorites!  Here’s a YouTube tutorial on it!
SWAP IT OUT: You could easily use a cute tee and tennis shoes to liven up this look and make it super fun!  THIS ONE and some white tennis shoes would be fun!

YETI IN A DRESS
I know, I know, who in their right mind wears a summer dress with fur right?  I DO!!!!  I love the neutrals and the sort of haute couture of the loafers, gold, and the fur vest with this ruffled goodness.
This is a super easy layering option…throw on a vest, slip on some loafers, and go.
THRIFTY TIP:  Fur is one of those things that it’s honestly better to get new…faux fur is preferable usually, and places like Target and Forever 21 and H&M tend to have a plethora of them in the fall.  The great news is that it’s totally off season for fur vests so they’re all on sale!  THIS ONE is under $20!
CRAFTY DIY: HERE is a FABULOUS post on how to make your own statement necklaces out of stuff like ribbon and chain and stuff so that you can create your own bling for much cheaper than the store bought ones!
SWAP IT OUT:  Too hot for fur?  A denim vest or even a funky brocade one would be really fun over a maxi dress!  You could also swap booties for the loafers or even simple ballet or lace up flats for them as well!

We MADE IT!  Now do you wanna try a maxi?  I promise these looks will be cool over a sleeker dress if the ruffles feel like too much for you.  Even a kimono (gasp!) would look amazing over one as well, so GO NUTS!

And happy midweek day y’all we made it this far hallelujah!
Katy

On Not Being Risk Taker…Except In Fashion!

I was watching Modern Family this week (if you don’t watch it, you must because it’s hilarious!) and one of the plot lines was about parents being overly cautious with their little girl learning to ride a bike.  It was really funny of course, and as a parent now, I completely understand this sentiment.  However, it made me remember myself as a child, and how overly cautious I was…and how it really didn’t serve me well.

I was that kid who basically was afraid of most everything.  Germs, sports, the dark, and giant structures of dinosaur bones (my parents took me to a lot of museums, so that should make more sense to you knowing that).  I was bad at sports because I was scared to take risks, and if you don’t have confidence, you tend to fall a lot.  So I never roller skated down hills.  I never learned to skateboard or do much with bats or balls that could potentially injure me.  I got semi decent at gymnastics until I realized that I was completely not flexible and a foot taller than everyone in my class.  Dance was out after my parent shut it down.  I mean, I was always more interested in music anyway, but being semi decent at something physical would have been nice, you know?  I remember my best friend introducing me to “sour grass”…you know that clover looking stuff that kids chew on because it tastes sour?  I refused to try it, because I informed her that “a dog could have peed on it” and she’d never know.  I was the total life of the party right??

The first time I went on an airplane was when I went on my senior trip to Europe in high school.  I know…dove right in, didn’t I?!  I was of course, fairly afraid to fly (I mean, you’re sitting on a chair IN THE SKY for crying out loud), partly because I’d never done it before.  Hilariously, my very first flight hit some turbulence and 90 percent of the passengers on the plane vomited into those little bags they provide.  Or onto my jacket and my shoe.  So that happened, and I thought that dramamine was just something you had to take to survive flying at all…and for my second flight, no one vomited and everyone fell asleep due to the drugs.  The first time (and second time) I tried snowboarding, I fell on my butt every single time I got off the dumb ski lift.  I mean, the thing was not moving at all that fast, but regardless, I would literally sit down in slow motion in the snow when it stopped.  Yeah.  It sucked.  I finally gave up and tobogganed down the bunny slopes on my rear end like a little kid.  I’ve still never been skiing, water skiing, wake boarding, in a lake, to Mexico, or to the bar downtown that smells like urine and bleach.  You can get a basic sense of how adventurous I truly am!

I really want my kids to have an appropriate amount of fearlessness.  Like, obviously I want them to be smart about stuff, but they shouldn’t be afraid to play sports or try new stuff.  Being adventurous when you’re young gives you a lot more life experiences to lean on and helps you be more of a flexible adult.  Unlike me, who all joking aside, struggles a lot to go out of my hometown where I have my comfort zone all mapped out.  I’m working on it, but it’s so much harder than if I had been taught that certain things weren’t meant to be feared on the level that I feared them.  I mean, I eventually loved sour grass and hey, probably munched on a little dog pee, but it’s sterile right?

Thankfully, I never developed fear of wearing different or interesting things, so that’s something right?  I’ve got a renewed love of vintage slips (can you tell?!) so I thought this one would be fun to pair with my husband’s military inspired shirt (he loves it when I raid his stuff even though my clothes try to eat his clothes in our closet!) and some combat boots.  It’s fun to play around with the soft girly quality of the lacy vintage with the elements of the more masculine like lace up boots and a men’s shirt.  Fearlessness belongs in many things, and fashion is most definitely one of them!

Have an AMAZING and FEARLESS weekend!
Katy

Ankle Zip Skinny Jeans and Extremes.

I’ve been on the lookout for ankle zip jeans for a few years now.  They’re one of those annoyingly perfect items that I see on everyone, and yet I never manage to find in a store.  Like where are they all GETTING these jeans?  Is there a secret ankle zip jean warehouse that I don’t know about?  I mean come on.  Think about it.  When was the last time you saw someone wearing ankle zip jeans?  Got it?  Okay now think about the last time you saw them in a store.  See what I mean??  But I digress.  I FINALLY found this amazing pair of ankle zip grey super stretchy skinny jeans at H&M in Santa Barbara.  They were under $30 and they are just about perfect.

My first pair of jeans (from what I remember, and my memory is all a blur of siamese cats, me hiding in a pile of stuffed animals, and running around naked with a dress-up chef’s hat on, so it’s not the most reliable) was an ankle zip pair.  Oh my goodness do I remember those jeans.  They were slightly acid wash but darker denim, skinny jeans, with a denim bow at the top of that glorious ankle zipper.  I literally never felt cooler in my life than when I put them on at the ripe old age of eight.  My mom didn’t shop unless it was at thrift stores (and that was definitely not cool then) so these were like a rare, brand new item.  I will never forget those jeans.  I haven’t owned a pair since then.  So I think it’s about time for a new pair, dontcha?

I am an extremes personality.  No, not an EXTREME personality, I’m just all about extremes.  I’m learning to find more of a happy medium, but I tend to gravitate towards the “all or nothing” kind of mindset.  I’m all skinny jeans or giant bell bottoms.  Nude makeup or dark smokey eyes.  I mean, give me a topic and I’ll tell you how I feel about it.  I FEEL about basically everything.  I think this is partly why I love these jeans.  They are committed to being skinny jeans.  Again.  Giant bells, or super skinny.  Anything in between is just hard for me because it’s non committal.  You can totally laugh at me now, it’s ok.

I love how easy they are.  Black tee I cut the sleeves off, New Balance shoes, and some silver vintage jewelry.  Done.  Ready to run errands with the kids.

I thought I’d kind of halfway dress them up.  Kept the running shoes, added a turquoise tassel necklace from Anthropologie and a sheer floral kimono.  Still works with the sportier look, but a little softer and more girly.

Dressing them up a bit more, I swapped the shoes for these strappy Jeffrey Campbell booties and swapped out the tank top for this mini tunic dress from Urban Outfitters.  I used some sparkly jewelry and gold to class up the jeans, since gold always kind of gives off a fancier vibe.

I love my bells so much.  But it’s kind of a nice switch to wear some skinny jeans! Plus, for those of you who have small children, you know how much easier it is to move around in skinny jeans than wide leg pants!!

Happy Wednesday!  Hope you have magical luck finding yourself a pair of ankle zip skinny jeans like I did!  Or just make it easy and run over to H&M. :)

Katy

Sequins Every Day of The Week.

So I realize that sequins are typically reserved for New Year’s Eve, Las Vegas, or some kind of bridal shower where there’s lots of champagne and confetti and male strippers.  I have no experience in any of those things, so I’m just shooting from the hip here.  I also don’t go to a lot of parties.  And it’s not just recently, like because I have little kids.  I really can’t blame everything on them.  Because it’s not like I was going to raves and nightclubs and stuff like that.  I mean I’m almost embarrassed to even try to write briefly about this stuff because I feel like it’s going to come across like the only thing I know about this stuff is from teen television.  Let me let you in on a not-so-secret secret.  A LOT of things that I know I learned from teen television.  But the long and short of it is, I’ve never been in a group of friends who had parties or really had much cause to wear sequins.  So I’ve invented new ways to wear sequins that don’t involve parties or strippers or werewolves.  Because those three things tend to go together on teen tv, so I’m pretty sure that’s reality too, right??  :)

I decided to take three of the sequined items from my closet and put them together in some ways that don’t scream VEGAS!  And yes, I do have more than three things in my closet that are covered in sequins.  These outfits aren’t necessary the most inventive or crazy, but when it comes to sequins, you gotta go pretty plain with the rest of the outfit.  (please see the post where I wore a fringe kimono and red cowboy boots with sequined shorts for a perfect example on how I generally “keep it simple. ” Insert emoji crying with laughter here).

Yes, you CAN wear sequins without going to a party.

 

First I’ve got this vintage gold sequined cap sleeve tee on with some flared jeans and my Sam Edelman gold sandals.  I love this shirt.  I’ve actually never worn it before, but for good reason.  I bought it when my son was only about 3 months old and I hadn’t lost enough weight to wear it yet.  It fit, so I new it would eventually work, but it isn’t flattering to wear a super tight too small sequined tee when you’re trying to lose belly weight!  Then I got pregnant with my daughter like two seconds later and obviously this is far from maternity wear.  (Although gold sequined maternity wear would be super awesome…)  Anyway, I’m just now at the point where it’s starting to fit comfortably and I’m so excited because I love this shirt!  I kept the accessories to a minimum because it really doesn’t need anything else.  Although a large turquoise necklace would work with it too.  I don’t think I’d wear this with anything other than denim or maybe a vintage plaid skirt to keep it from looking like a circus.

 

I got this Free People silver sequined tank on super sale years ago, right before getting pregnant with my son.  What’s the deal with me buying sequined stuff and getting pregnant by the way??  Some mysteries are meant to be unsolved I guess… Anyway, I love how it’s kind of A-line and actually a little sheer.  I added turquoise and silver accents to kind of tone it down, because for some reason, this tank feels dressier than the gold one.  Maybe it’s the fit of it, or the fact that it’s silver…but this one was harder to make feel more everyday.  Turquoise always helps because it can dress down fancy stuff.  Anything sparkly would just up the anti and make this REALLY feel party ready.  I’m also wearing black lace Toms to kind of make this feel more summery.

 

Okay.  This jacket.  I got this from The Oxford Trunk when I was just post pregnancy and again, couldn’t wear it right away.  But when I saw it, I had this instant rock and roll outfit idea and it was just a must have.  It’s so rock and roll.  With my Coachella tank top (even though I’ve never been to Coachella) and jeans and huaraches, it’s just perfect.  It’s fun and makes me feel like I’m going to a concert even when I’m just doing my errands.  Although I’m gonna have to wait till it gets a little cooler to bust this piece out for sure.

So there you have it, yes, I will most likely end up wearing sequins while pushing a massive motorhome sized cart through Target.  Yes, I will possibly feel both silly and amazing.  But really I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Happy Wednesday…hope your outfit’s amazing today :)

Katy