Real World Style: Fall Couture

I love nothing more than to be flipping through the glossy pages of a magazine and spot an outfit that makes me think: “hey!  I could do that!”  I love when I see a photo that encourages me to put things together in a brand new way.  This is the ultimate way to “shop your closet” or to help you come up with a list of a few pieces to add to your wardrobe for the new season.  When I saw this look in the most recent Vogue, I instantly knew I wanted to give it a shot in the real world.

Dang it.  Now I want a soft pretzel.  Back to the outfit.  I love blazers.  I think they are one of the most key pieces, like a great pair of jeans, that can just completely make an outfit.  They just add something structured to your look and can take anything, even a plain tank top and jeans and sandals and make it look like a legit outfit.  This look, though, made me think about the whole “blazer/skirt” combo.  This is not new, it’s not rocket science, but it just feels very now and fresh to me.  This is what I did with it:

I have a plaid blazer, but because mine is navy and dark green, when I tried to pair it with the red skirt it looked way too Christmas-y.  I liked how the stripes paired with the skirt…kind of had this thing where the lines on the blazer continued on down in the skirt.  It feels so “fall” and so  put together to me.  All I need is that stupid soft pretzel now…

If you don’t have a blazer, definitely add one to your wardrobe.  Here’s a great option for one under $50 at H&M.  I think this look works best with an unstructured skirt better than a pencil skirt for example, because the blazer/pencil skirt pairing is definitely an “I just came from the office” look whereas this is a more creative use of this typical workwear piece.  I would do it with a flowy maxi, a pleated midi, or even a destroyed denim piece to be creative with it!  I love the juxtaposition of the tweed-y blazer with a romantic or rock and roll skirt!

Hope you’re having a great day (and eating a soft pretzel)!

Today, I’m Your Cheerleader. In a Giant Fluffy Skirt.

Sometimes I feel like I get inspired to write something, and I have a strong feeling it’s not just for me…like maybe somebody out there (even if it’s just the one or two people who read this!) needs it even more than me.  So I’ll take that chance just in case.  Worst case scenario, I encourage myself, and I could definitely use that.

I’ve been SO tempted to give up lately.  Like even over the past year, it’s just been a very tempting option…to pack up, move our family to some location that’s much cheaper, stop writing songs and blog posts, and just slip into oblivion far far away from the dreams and passions that have been in my heart since the day I was born.  It’s just so tempting sometimes because, well, life can be overwhelming.  Sometimes I feel like I’m drowning in just how much work it takes to try to feed my family whole organic healthy food and keep the house clean.  How on earth does Wellness Mama do it?  Pregnant with her sixth kid?  Cooks everything from scratch?  Puts me to shame.  Then there are other times when I feel like I’m just overcome by the difficulty of my surroundings.  I know not all of you live where I live, but every place and every situation has it’s own challenges.  The cost of living…the people we live around…the lack of jobs…whatever it may be, we all have something that can feel just so discouraging that sometimes, that idea of moving away and hiding on a farm in the middle of nowhere sounds mighty tempting.

So today, I’m writing to tell you that giving up is not an option.  You know why?  Because you’re gonna win.  How do I know that?  Because if you don’t give up in whatever you’re doing, you’re going to succeed somehow, somewhere.  So yeah, I haven’t exactly succeeded in pretty much any area yet.  But you know what?  I’m gonna.  And if I give up, I know the odds of success and they are zero.  Whatever it is that feels overwhelming to you right at this moment is not big enough to keep you from succeeding.  Period.

I don’t know why wearing this crazy, ridiculously giant fluffy skirt makes me feel like this but it just does.  It’s absolutely silly and yet, somehow it’s not!  It’s fierce and over the top, and it encourages me!  So for your Monday, here’s what I got for you.  Put on your silly huge skirt (or whatever your equivalent of the skirt in your closet is!) and DON’T.  GIVE.  UP.  Today, I am your cheerleader!

You’re a force to be reckoned with, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.


Denim Skirts as Dresses and (im)Perfection

What is it about perfection that is just so elusive?  Oh wait…it’s that perfection is a relative concept.  What’s perfect to one person is not perfect to another.  And let’s just be honest, and say that we are almost (if ever at all) never perfect by our own standards.  Why?  Because my version of perfect is Giselle.  Cindy Crawford is perfect.  Most of the bloggers I see on Instagram are pretty perfect to me…I mean have you SEEN those girls?  Like are they for real?  Of course I can never ever attain these impossible standards I’ve placed on myself because I will never ever look like someone other than me.  Darn.

After having two babies in a row, I had ballooned out to approximately 100 pounds above my normal weight.  I had (and still have) stretch marks all over my stomach.  My cheekbones had vanished and I felt like a complete and utter failure.  Even as I write this I almost am laughing at the sheer craziness of that feeling.  I had literally just grown two (rather large) humans in my body and given birth to them, and now was suddenly in charge of taking care of their every need.  And I felt like a failure.  Because I didn’t look perfect.  I’ve lost 90 of those pounds and I should feel like a success, but do I?  Oh heck no.  I take 30 photos of myself, cry, tell myself I shouldn’t be doing this, then I fix my makeup and try another 30.  The photos that do make the cut are still painfully imperfect to me.  I can see the extra weight.  I can see the lack of confidence in my face and the shame for not being who I think I should be.  And it’s painful.  However, I’ve made a new decision that propelled me into doing this blog and talking about clothes and life and all that good stuff.  Every time I feel that urge to seek after perfection and compare myself to all those “perfect” bloggers out there, I remind myself that I am in a new pursuit.  I am in the pursuit of realness.  I am not doing this to try and get a photo that could compete with someone else’s.  I am not trying to show the world how skinny I can be.  I am doing this to seek after who I really am.  To be honest with myself and with everyone who happens upon this blog or upon my Instagram feed…to be who I am and be confident about it.  Oh, and I’m doing this because it’s FUN!!!

I got this denim skirt years ago at Ruby Rose and I never wore it.  I found it in my closet when my stomach was huge from having babies and my weight was kind of off the charts.  It didn’t fit me.  So I pulled it over my head, belted it, put on some fancy cut-offs and boots with it, and suddenly I felt creative, confident, and cute.  Three things I definitely did NOT feel generally speaking.  This skirt dress got me through some pretty rough seasons when nothing felt right in my life.  It holds a special place in my heart because when I put it on, I remember feeling good about myself even though I was not exactly where I wanted to be.  And that’s important.


I think it may be impossible to not feel cute while wearing this vintage sparkly horse head belt.  I mean come on.  Plus when you do the Angelina Jolie patented leg pop, you just kind of feel amazing.  I think that’s going to be my new power pose.

Hope you’re feeling as amazing as you truly are.